-- Posted by HollywoodTrashley at 4:43 pm on July 1, 2009 We have been dating six months and he is 29 and I am 23 and I won't give him sex,( apart from doing it once)because I am too afraid he'll leave me if he gets tired of having sex with me all the time. And he wants to leave me because he doesn't believe in marriage but he does believe in sex, should I just give him sex, I mean we are certainly old enough to be doing it. Or should I just leave him? -- Posted by major at 4:43 pm on July 1, 2009 don't have sex with him all the time, only sometimes, then he can't leave you for that -- Posted by hawaiinchuck at 4:43 pm on July 1, 2009 Give him sex. -- Posted by Miss Kaytee at 4:44 pm on July 1, 2009 if he's gonna leave you for such a stupid reason then he really isn't worth keeping around -- Posted by JamesBrauman at 4:44 pm on July 1, 2009 Just give him sex. -- Posted by junkee99 at 4:44 pm on July 1, 2009 you both don't sound mature enough for real relationship -- Posted by 420trendz at 4:44 pm on July 1, 2009 well you both have completely different agendas it wont be worth it so leaving him might be the thing to do -- Posted by ElectricLadyFlash at 4:44 pm on July 1, 2009 That is stupid as hell, if he is stupid enough to walk out of your life because you won't give him SEX, be smart enough to let him. -- Posted by Natdaddi at 4:44 pm on July 1, 2009 Give him sex occasionally . -- Posted by AllyLee at 4:45 pm on July 1, 2009 Wow. I agree with Miss Kaytee. If he would break up with you because of that then he isnt worth it. -- Posted by WickedWiccan at 4:46 pm on July 1, 2009 Don't do anything you don't feel like doing. Don't do it just to make him happy either. Do it only if YOU feel like it. -- Posted by Uptown Swag at 4:46 pm on July 1, 2009 Forget him. If he's willing to break up with you over something like sex he isnt worth it. -- Posted by Hexer at 4:47 pm on July 1, 2009 Is that really the kind of person you want to date? Then again I think you need to access your reason for not going ahead with it. If your frightened he will get sick of sex with you and thats why you never do it then you will have this problem with EVERY relationship you have... It is not a good enough reason, so you may be using it to hide something else... Regardless, not believe in marriage is something that is pretty set. If you want marriage in your life and he is set against it - don't settle with him or you'll be disappointed. -- Posted by hotpotocoffee11 at 4:47 pm on July 1, 2009 Don't do it unless you want to. If you are truly ready to "give him sex" then tell him to cool down, and you will...*ahem satisfy...him when YOU'RE ready. If you let him pressure you into it, then it'll wreck your relationship. -- Posted by Reading Your Eyes at 4:51 pm on July 1, 2009 If he's gonna leave you just cause you won't have sex with him, then let him leave. Although, I must say, that's kinda a stupid reason to not have sex with someone IMO. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 4:52 pm on July 1, 2009 That's ridiculous. If he's gonna leave you just cause you won't have sex with him, then let him leave. This. In a loving relationship, it's about both being ready for the action, not one or the other. Sex is not a need, and if your boyfriend is not willing to wait for you, then fuck him (not really). -- Posted by ElectricLadyFlash at 4:53 pm on July 1, 2009 And if you are smart enough to NOT give him sex because you do not want to, and his stupid self breaks up with you, smile. Because he has shown his true colors and the fact that sex was holding your relationship together should show you how flimsy it was in the first place. Relationships based on sex can be pretty unstable. I believe you love and care for him, but he doesn't see you on the same level, and just wants sex. He can't respect your wishes or find a healthy alternative? (Keyword, HEALTHY) Its your body, not his. -- Posted by Mz strawberry2k4 at 4:51 am on July 2, 2009 Let him go -- Posted by Keno024 at 12:36 pm on July 2, 2009 Sounds like a personal problem if a man is 29 years old and is in a relationship with out sex...and you want him to be faithful GL. Him asking you to break up is actually the right thing to do. Sounds like you have some insecurities about your self and this SEX problem is going to continue with every relationship you have. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 2:38 pm on July 2, 2009 Sounds like a personal problem if a man is 29 years old and is in a relationship with out sex... Because every man is all about the sex. Good God, think about what you're saying. SEX problem is going to continue with every relationship you have. Though I agree with the insecurities being an issue, not every relationship needs sex to strive. Good lord. -- Posted by doiochiverzi at 4:26 pm on July 2, 2009 i mean... I don't really understand why you weren't having sex with him... do you enjoy it, cause if you don't... then don't bother being with him... but if you do and you really want to be with him then just give him what you both want...