Pages: 1 2  Next -- Posted by beingme at 7:22 pm on July 2, 2009 Hello, my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 4 months nw, last night my mom told me he saw him wit another girl in a car waiting in line, my mother would not lie about this instead she would try to help me, that is why she warned me, she didnt see them kiss or n e thing but she saw my boyfriend talking and talking an wouldnt stop talking to the girl as if he were trying to entertain her anyways, i slept about 5 hours last night because i couldnt beleive it. today i woke up so early didnt eat breakfast, my boyfriend and i texted because we had planned on seeing each other today, so i went to his house said hi and gave him a hug, KNOWING something was going on, i held it in, until i said "so how was your date yesterday wit that girl?" [and i described the girl the way my mom told had described her to me] and he made a shocked look and said "what girl? when?" i interrupted him "who is the girl?! " -"when? what girl?" so then i described where they were at, and told him I was the one who saw them, and pretty much told him everything what my mom had described, then he's like "it was my sister, u want 2 see the car, its in the back. ?" and i was so shocked i couldnt deal with it at the moment, i shook my head and quickly got into my car, he's like "i'm going to go get my sister, wait!" i couldnt stay there any longer, tears were almost gona come out because i had held them in so long, i felt TERRIBLE, because i knew for suRe he was cheating on me when my mom first told me about it.   i couldnt take it n e more so i left. i didnt get 2 see the car my mom told me it was, i didnt get 2 see his sister, as if i were be able 2 recognize her because I DID NOT see her, my mom did. and now i dont know what to do. any advice/ideas? -- Posted by Aerie at 7:25 pm on July 2, 2009 You're kinda dumb. Your mom said he saw him with another girl. Big whoop. She had no right to tell you that if she didn't know. You know she didn't see them do anything, you had no right to accuse him of cheating. Your mom said he was talking to her, she never said flirting. You jumped to conclusions. You should feel terrible. The only ting I can think of telling you is calling him and apologizing. And don't do it again. -- Posted by Total Destruction at 7:25 pm on July 2, 2009 I would leave my partner if they cheated on me. I dumped my first gf because she cheated on me, I shortly became incredibly racist and became fascist -- Posted by aleiram51 at 7:25 pm on July 2, 2009 You didn't even give him a chance to explain. Girls are so crazy -- Posted by Clara Bell at 7:26 pm on July 2, 2009 Your suspicions were understandable. And it's probably good that you left seeing as you wouldn't have been able to reconize his sister anyway. You should tell him to come to your house and bring his sister, than way your mom can identify her. -- Posted by drifting at 7:26 pm on July 2, 2009 Trust him? And you slept five hours? And thats not much? Seriously? Im lucky to get five hours on a good night, so quit your whining. The night my girlfriend openly admitted to cheating on me, I didnt sleep for three days. I would have loved the five hours. But yeah, trust him. Your mom did not see them kiss, and you really have no evidence that he cheated on you. Just apologize for accusing him, and get over it. -- Posted by NakedSun at 7:26 pm on July 2, 2009 You guys are lame for not reading. I think you made a silly assumption. He obviously wouldn't volunteer you to see his sister if you told him you were the one to see them. I would go and apologize. -- Posted by Go Steph Go at 7:27 pm on July 2, 2009 Wow, you guys are really helpful I say give him a chance to explain.  If you don't trust him, the relationship will go nowhere.  I can definitely understand how you feel though.  It's not like they were kissing, just talking.  It probably was his sister. -- Posted by BeautifulGirl15 at 7:28 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Aerie at 10:25 pm on July 2, 2009 You're kinda dumb.   Your mom said he saw him with another girl. Big whoop.   She had no right to tell you that if she didn't know. You know she didn't see them do anything, you had no right to accuse him of cheating. Your mom said he was talking to her, she never said flirting. You jumped to conclusions.   You should feel terrible.   The only ting I can think of telling you is calling him and apologizing. And don't do it again.   basically this. -- Posted by zombieman5 at 7:28 pm on July 2, 2009 well other then the jerks who didn't read it cause length, to me you over reacted and was a little overbearing. you have a boyfriend, but you won't let him hangout with friends that are girls. even if he was trying to entertain her. is that wrong? i thought friends entertain eachother? i know i don't just sit there bored with friends. and if he said it was his sister, have your mom look at her to see if it was her. -- Posted by Karen18 at 7:28 pm on July 2, 2009 Wow, it took me less than a minute to read. Losers. Anyway, if he was denying it, saying "what girl" and what not and then made up the story I wouldn't believe the stupid son of a bitch. Once a cheater, always a cheater too. If you forgive, or decide to believe him, he can and will fuck you over. he'll do it even more probably since you just about caught him and he'll feel like he can definitely get away with it. You'll come off gullible. Drop him. -- Posted by tell me again at 7:28 pm on July 2, 2009 Wow.  Oh no. Go apologise and make up to him with a fantastic lovely date. -- Posted by aleiram51 at 7:30 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Karen18 at 7:28 pm on July 2, 2009 Wow, it took me less than a minute to read. Losers. Anyway, if he was denying it, saying "what girl" and what not and then made up the story I wouldn't believe the stupid son of a bitch. Once a cheater, always a cheater too. If you forgive, or decide to believe him, he can and will fuck you over. he'll do it even more probably since you just about caught him and he'll feel like he can definitely get away with it. You'll come off gullible. Drop him. She doesn't even know if he was cheating. -- Posted by tell me again at 7:31 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Karen18 at 7:28 pm on July 2, 2009 Wow, it took me less than a minute to read. Losers. Anyway, if he was denying it, saying "what girl" and what not and then made up the story I wouldn't believe the stupid son of a bitch. Once a cheater, always a cheater too. If you forgive, or decide to believe him, he can and will fuck you over. he'll do it even more probably since you just about caught him and he'll feel like he can definitely get away with it. You'll come off gullible. Drop him. what the hell -- Posted by Aerie at 7:31 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Karen18 at 10:28 pm on July 2, 2009 Wow, it took me less than a minute to read. Losers. Anyway, if he was denying it, saying "what girl" and what not and then made up the story I wouldn't believe the stupid son of a bitch. Once a cheater, always a cheater too. If you forgive, or decide to believe him, he can and will fuck you over. he'll do it even more probably since you just about caught him and he'll feel like he can definitely get away with it. You'll come off gullible. Drop him. There's no evidence he cheated. And I'm pretty sure he didn't if he offered more than once to show her his sister. He was asking what girl, because I highly doubt the first girl in his mind would be his sister. -- Posted by beingme at 7:34 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from aleiram51 at 7:30 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Karen18 at 7:28 pm on July 2, 2009 Wow, it took me less than a minute to read. Losers.    Anyway, if he was denying it, saying "what girl" and what not and then made up the story I wouldn't believe the stupid son of a bitch. Once a cheater, always a cheater too. If you forgive, or decide to believe him, he can and will fuck you over. he'll do it even more probably since you just about caught him and he'll feel like he can definitely get away with it. You'll come off gullible. Drop him. She doesn't even know if he was cheating. he did deny it tho! wtf, i'm going insane.... -- Posted by Violently Happy at 7:34 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Aerie at 10:25 pm on July 2, 2009 You're kinda dumb.   Your mom said he saw him with another girl. Big whoop.   She had no right to tell you that if she didn't know. You know she didn't see them do anything, you had no right to accuse him of cheating. Your mom said he was talking to her, she never said flirting. You jumped to conclusions.   You should feel terrible.   The only ting I can think of telling you is calling him and apologizing. And don't do it again.   I agree with this -- Posted by Cyanotype at 7:34 pm on July 2, 2009 You've accused him of cheating without anything but speculation to incriminate him. I know it's hard to be in the situation you're in now but you've got to see how he's feeling. It's pretty mean of you to walk up and say he was cheating on you without solid proof. Honestly, if you've never seen his sister and you have nothing but your mother to say he was with some girl. You need to explain what caused you to feel this way to him. Explain that it was your mother who saw this event happen and that you don't know the details that caused you to feel this way. Trust is an important stepping stone in relationships and you didn't have it. Explain your fault to him and he'll be sure to accept this. Tell him that you're not secure about your place in his mind and that he's going to have to bear with you was you try to feel secure with him. There is only so much I have to go on and as a guy, I know that I would have appreciated it greatly if you said all of these things to me if I were in his position. -- Posted by yssuPevoLI at 7:34 pm on July 2, 2009 Just tell him your sorry, that you didn't realize it was his sister. -- Posted by beingme at 7:35 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Aerie at 7:31 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Karen18 at 10:28 pm on July 2, 2009 Wow, it took me less than a minute to read. Losers.    Anyway, if he was denying it, saying "what girl" and what not and then made up the story I wouldn't believe the stupid son of a bitch. Once a cheater, always a cheater too. If you forgive, or decide to believe him, he can and will fuck you over. he'll do it even more probably since you just about caught him and he'll feel like he can definitely get away with it. You'll come off gullible. Drop him. There's no evidence he cheated.   And I'm pretty sure he didn't if he offered more than once to show her his sister.   He was asking what girl, because I highly doubt the first girl in his mind would be his sister. you ARE correct, but then later on today we were texting and arguing and he's like the only girl i was with yesterday was my sister, and i'm like wtf, if it were TRUE he would've told me that right off the bat. you know? or am i wrong? -- Posted by Aerie at 7:36 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from beingme at 10:35 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Aerie at 7:31 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Karen18 at 10:28 pm on July 2, 2009 Wow, it took me less than a minute to read. Losers.   Anyway, if he was denying it, saying "what girl" and what not and then made up the story I wouldn't believe the stupid son of a bitch. Once a cheater, always a cheater too. If you forgive, or decide to believe him, he can and will fuck you over. he'll do it even more probably since you just about caught him and he'll feel like he can definitely get away with it. You'll come off gullible. Drop him.    There's no evidence he cheated.  And I'm pretty sure he didn't if he offered more than once to show her his sister.  He was asking what girl, because I highly doubt the first girl in his mind would be his sister. you ARE correct, but then later on today we were texting and arguing and he's like the only girl i was with yesterday was my sister, and i'm like wtf, if it were TRUE he would've told me that right off the bat. you know? or am i wrong? You ARE wrong. Like I said, the first girl you'd accuse him of a having a date with wouldn't have been his sister. -- Posted by TheEverChanging at 7:38 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Aerie at 10:25 pm on July 2, 2009 You're really dumb. i fix'd it. -- Posted by tell me again at 7:39 pm on July 2, 2009 Arhhhhh don't get yourself dumped! -- Posted by beingme at 7:40 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Midnight Lights at 7:34 pm on July 2, 2009 You've accused him of cheating without anything but speculation to incriminate him. I know it's hard to be in the situation you're in now but you've got to see how he's feeling. It's pretty mean of you to walk up and say he was cheating on you without solid proof. Honestly, if you've never seen his sister and you have nothing but your mother to say he was with some girl. You need to explain what caused you to feel this way to him. Explain that it was your mother who saw this event happen and that you don't know the details that caused you to feel this way.   Trust is an important stepping stone in relationships and you didn't have it. Explain your fault to him and he'll be sure to accept this. Tell him that you're not secure about your place in his mind and that he's going to have to bear with you was you try to feel secure with him.   There is only so much I have to go on and as a guy, I know that I would have appreciated it greatly if you said all of these things to me if I were in his position. CORRECT, but i came off strong because what if "what if" it really WASNT his sister, and if i had explained everything rationally he would've had a better chance of making up a story right then and there. -- Posted by beingme at 7:41 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Aerie at 7:36 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from beingme at 10:35 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Aerie at 7:31 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Karen18 at 10:28 pm on July 2, 2009 Wow, it took me less than a minute to read. Losers.       Anyway, if he was denying it, saying "what girl" and what not and then made up the story I wouldn't believe the stupid son of a bitch. Once a cheater, always a cheater too. If you forgive, or decide to believe him, he can and will fuck you over. he'll do it even more probably since you just about caught him and he'll feel like he can definitely get away with it. You'll come off gullible. Drop him.   There's no evidence he cheated.       And I'm pretty sure he didn't if he offered more than once to show her his sister.       He was asking what girl, because I highly doubt the first girl in his mind would be his sister.    you ARE correct, but then later on today we were texting and arguing and he's like the only girl i was with yesterday was my sister, and i'm like wtf, if it were TRUE he would've told me that right off the bat. you know? or am i wrong? You ARE wrong.   Like I said, the first girl you'd accuse him of a having a date with wouldn't have been his sister.   true, buT sometimes guys can pretend to not know whats going on, and he is one of them, sometimes he likes to pretend 2 not know whats going on so he'll act all dumb. aghh what should i do?   -- Posted by Aerie at 7:44 pm on July 2, 2009 I told you like 4 times already. SAY SORRY. You are wrong. You're trying to find ways to pin this off on him, and say it's his fault for it, when it's not. Go apologize. It doesn't matter if he plays dumb other times, he's clearly telling the truth now. -- Posted by NakedSun at 7:45 pm on July 2, 2009 Why would he volunteer his sister.. its something that could be easily checked out and verified. Even if it wasn't his sister then wtf - he's allowed to have female friends. You're in the wrong. Stop trying to pretend otherwise. -- Posted by beingme at 7:48 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Aerie at 7:44 pm on July 2, 2009 I told you like 4 times already.   SAY SORRY.   You are wrong.   You're trying to find ways to pin this off on him, and say it's his fault for it, when it's not.   Go apologize.   It doesn't matter if he plays dumb other times, he's clearly telling the truth now.   its hard for me 2 jst call him up and say i'm sorry, i dont know why tho, i want 2 but then again i dont. ughhh... fucken complicated. i think its because he'll think he's got the best of me, and think he's got me all wrapped around his lil finger. -- Posted by beingme at 7:49 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from NakedSun at 7:45 pm on July 2, 2009 Why would he volunteer his sister.. its something that could be easily checked out and verified. Even if it wasn't his sister then wtf - he's allowed to have female friends.     You're in the wrong. Stop trying to pretend otherwise. "your in the wrong. " wat? -- Posted by Aerie at 7:52 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from beingme at 10:48 pm on July 2, 2009 Quote: from Aerie at 7:44 pm on July 2, 2009 I told you like 4 times already.  SAY SORRY.  You are wrong.  You're trying to find ways to pin this off on him, and say it's his fault for it, when it's not.  Go apologize.  It doesn't matter if he plays dumb other times, he's clearly telling the truth now.   its hard for me 2 jst call him up and say i'm sorry,   i dont know why tho,   i want 2 but then again i dont.   ughhh... fucken complicated.   i think its because he'll think he's got the best of me, and think he's got me all wrapped around his lil finger. Oh well, you're gonna have too. He did get the best of you. You were dumb, and accused him of something he didn't do. Pages: 1 2  Next