-- Posted by Gaelle at 5:40 am on July 3, 2009 My ex has been sending pictures to me lately. Pictures of when he abused me, raped me, and..."shared me" with his friends. It's making me realize just how much stuff I missed while I was with him. I knew there were other people in the room, but I didn't know that he let them fuck me. I remember voices, but I don't remember who touched me...judging from the photos I can't really remember since I had tape over my eyes, but...it just seems strange to me. Feels like a dream or a really bad Hollywood b-list movie. At least I now know that I make a really good battered woman. BDSM porn would love me... -- Posted by dilly62301 at 5:41 am on July 3, 2009 have the bastard arrested -- Posted by 0h h3ll n0 at 5:42 am on July 3, 2009 ... Go to the police with the pictures. -- Posted by My Dreams WILL Wait at 5:42 am on July 3, 2009 Take the pictures to the police. Have him arrested, no one should run away with something like this -- Posted by roflfuckyou at 5:43 am on July 3, 2009 All you can do is delete them and try to move on. Coming to terms with what he did is extremely difficult, and having pictures to aid it won't make it easier. It's good to be aware of what happened, but try not to let it set you back in your recovery, okay? There is no easy way to do this, trust me, just try to stay positive and keep moving forward, please. Edit:  I didn't mention the police because I already know you won't consider that option. -- Posted by GlassHearts at 5:44 am on July 3, 2009 Quote: from My Dreams WILL Wait at 5:42 am on July 3, 2009 Take the pictures to the police. Have him arrested, no one should run away with something like this exactly. Use the proof while you have it, before he does it to somebody else too. -- Posted by dirty paws at 12:33 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from GlassHearts at 5:44 am on July 3, 2009 Quote: from My Dreams WILL Wait at 5:42 am on July 3, 2009 Take the pictures to the police. Have him arrested, no one should run away with something like this exactly. Use the proof while you have it, before he does it to somebody else too. this isnt going to happen but it should. -- Posted by Mimic at 1:07 pm on July 3, 2009 If he's sent you picture messages or video then can't you now take these to the police and press charges? It just seems like the obvious thing to do given the way you were violated. What your ex did was clearly against the law, it was abusive, it was horrific and if you have evidence of it then you should press charges. The chances are if you don't that he and his friends, thinking they have got away with it once might do it again. You need to do this for yourself and for other potential victims. Be angry, and use that anger to do something about it. Whatever you do please don't feel ashamed or worthless like many girls in your position end up feeling. You didn't ask for this and it wasn't your fault. No-one deserves that kind of abuse and rape is a horrific thing to suffer and the way yours happened only makes it worse. Pressing charges could be the first step to rebuilding your self esteem after this has happened to you. -- Posted by Gaelle at 2:13 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Mimic at 1:07 pm on July 3, 2009 If he's sent you picture messages or video then can't you now take these to the police and press charges? It just seems like the obvious thing to do given the way you were violated. What your ex did was clearly against the law, it was abusive, it was horrific and if you have evidence of it then you should press charges. The chances are if you don't that he and his friends, thinking they have got away with it once might do it again. You need to do this for yourself and for other potential victims. Be angry, and use that anger to do something about it. Whatever you do please don't feel ashamed or worthless like many girls in your position end up feeling. You didn't ask for this and it wasn't your fault. No-one deserves that kind of abuse and rape is a horrific thing to suffer and the way yours happened only makes it worse. Pressing charges could be the first step to rebuilding your self esteem after this has happened to you. You know...maybe I would do that, but I know that it won't make a single thing better. It won't change what he did, it won't erase the memories...therefore it is pointless. -- Posted by SpRiNgS at 2:19 pm on July 3, 2009 You seemed to have been moving on so well. -- Posted by Gaelle at 2:41 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from SpRiNgS at 2:19 pm on July 3, 2009 You seemed to have been moving on so well. Huh? Honey, when did things ever get better? People think it gets better, because I don't walk about it for a while sometimes. Seems tedious to talk about it...ridiculous even... -- Posted by SpRiNgS at 2:46 pm on July 3, 2009 by better i meant you didn't ahve to be subjected to a new level of it -- Posted by cutie2 at 7:37 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Gaelle at 2:13 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Mimic at 1:07 pm on July 3, 2009 If he's sent you picture messages or video then can't you now take these to the police and press charges? It just seems like the obvious thing to do given the way you were violated. What your ex did was clearly against the law, it was abusive, it was horrific and if you have evidence of it then you should press charges. The chances are if you don't that he and his friends, thinking they have got away with it once might do it again. You need to do this for yourself and for other potential victims. Be angry, and use that anger to do something about it. Whatever you do please don't feel ashamed or worthless like many girls in your position end up feeling. You didn't ask for this and it wasn't your fault. No-one deserves that kind of abuse and rape is a horrific thing to suffer and the way yours happened only makes it worse. Pressing charges could be the first step to rebuilding your self esteem after this has happened to you. You know...maybe I would do that, but I know that it won't make a single thing better. It won't change what he did, it won't erase the memories...therefore it is pointless. even if it might save someone else from going through the same thing you are now? What if they did it to someone before you, and that person didn't do anything about it and now you're suffering for it? Would it be pointless for them to have reported it? I feel for you so bad. I'm not good at advice with sexual abuse because I haven't had much to do with that sort of situation. I just hate to see people get away with it. -- Posted by Gaelle at 2:43 am on July 4, 2009 Quote: from cutie2 at 7:37 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Gaelle at 2:13 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Mimic at 1:07 pm on July 3, 2009 If he's sent you picture messages or video then can't you now take these to the police and press charges? It just seems like the obvious thing to do given the way you were violated. What your ex did was clearly against the law, it was abusive, it was horrific and if you have evidence of it then you should press charges. The chances are if you don't that he and his friends, thinking they have got away with it once might do it again. You need to do this for yourself and for other potential victims. Be angry, and use that anger to do something about it. Whatever you do please don't feel ashamed or worthless like many girls in your position end up feeling. You didn't ask for this and it wasn't your fault. No-one deserves that kind of abuse and rape is a horrific thing to suffer and the way yours happened only makes it worse. Pressing charges could be the first step to rebuilding your self esteem after this has happened to you.    You know...maybe I would do that, but I know that it won't make a single thing better. It won't change what he did, it won't erase the memories...therefore it is pointless. even if it might save someone else from going through the same thing you are now? What if they did it to someone before you, and that person didn't do anything about it and now you're suffering for it? Would it be pointless for them to have reported it? I feel for you so bad. I'm not good at advice with sexual abuse because I haven't had much to do with that sort of situation. I just hate to see people get away with it. Maybe you're right, but this is the one thing in my life that I want to be selfish with. I don't want to give a damn about anyone else. -- Posted by Corrupted Innocence at 2:49 am on July 4, 2009 I know you won't want to tell but you want to be selfish about it, but how would you feel if you knew he was going to do it again, just because he knew he got away with it? Nobody deserves to go through what you did but they might. You have the evidence use it to send the son of a bitch down, he doesn't deserve to walk so freely having put you through what he has. You have people to help you to deal and be there for you to o this, just think about it. -- Posted by Gaelle at 3:31 am on July 4, 2009 Quote: from Corrupted Innocence at 2:49 am on July 4, 2009 I know you won't want to tell but you want to be selfish about it, but how would you feel if you knew he was going to do it again, just because he knew he got away with it? Nobody deserves to go through what you did but they might. You have the evidence use it to send the son of a bitch down, he doesn't deserve to walk so freely having put you through what he has. You have people to help you to deal and be there for you to o this, just think about it. I seriously don't care, Emma.