-- Posted by Anonymous at 8:34 pm on July 3, 2009 I'm starting to really hate my boyfriend.. just everything now is negative negative bitch whine argue with him.. and it's always my fault. And yet I don't have the heart to leave him yet.. and kind of feel like this is the best I'm going to get, you know? Not that I'm so horrible I think.. but I can't say it's easy for me to get to know or like people.. he's a great guy too, but I feel like he isn't for me afterall.. and yet if he isn't, who is.. I hate relationships.. let's all just love eachother.. no boyfriend or girlfriend.. one big fucking worldwide orgy.. XD Anyway.. do you think it's worth it to wait it out? I kind of have been for a while.. because at times I would start to love him again and then it would disappear.. and now I don't know if I feel anything.. and yet if I leave him that's it for me.. -- Posted by MistressH at 8:36 pm on July 3, 2009 I think it's time to let go. Go on any further you might end up completly hating him or something.  Don't settle. -- Posted by HideOrSeek at 8:38 pm on July 3, 2009 I'm in! -- Posted by virginia287 at 8:44 pm on July 3, 2009 It only gets harder to break up and your relationship will only get worse... Its hard but leave now and try to maintain some form of friendship with your partner, even though its hard and uncommon. There are plenty of fish in the sea, don't stick with someone for fear you won't find something better. Best of luck -- Posted by Tarhanosaurus Sexx at 8:46 pm on July 3, 2009 Oh dear. I sort of know how you're feeling. All me and my boyfriend do at the moment is fight. He's lazy and always lets me down. Like today we were meant to go to the movies, I woke him up at 10am and asked him to start getting ready, he said 'yeah' then went back to sleep...and I'm not going to fucking baby him...so it's 1:40pm we've missed the movie and he's still in bed sleeping. So when he decides to get up, I'm sure we'll have another argument...this is only a small thing, but we planned this at the start of the week, and I've been looking forward to it all week. HOWEVER...if we were gonna have sex, he would have woken up straight away. There's so many other things he does, and I'm starting to find that I just don't care for him anymore. And I have the same problem...I want to leave him, but I honestly don't think I can get any better, so I've stayed & I keep hoping it'll change, it's been going on for a few months. I think we need to get out, it's obviously not healthy. -- Posted by ssminow at 8:51 pm on July 3, 2009 yeah ive been in that situation before.  the way i see it is that if yoiu know he isnt the right one you should cut your losses now and not waste anymore time on/with him -- Posted by Anonymous at 8:54 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Tarhanosaurus Sexx at 8:46 pm on July 3, 2009 Oh dear. I sort of know how you're feeling. All me and my boyfriend do at the moment is fight. He's lazy and always lets me down. Like today we were meant to go to the movies, I woke him up at 10am and asked him to start getting ready, he said 'yeah' then went back to sleep...and I'm not going to fucking baby him...so it's 1:40pm we've missed the movie and he's still in bed sleeping. So when he decides to get up, I'm sure we'll have another argument...this is only a small thing, but we planned this at the start of the week, and I've been looking forward to it all week. HOWEVER...if we were gonna have sex, he would have woken up straight away. There's so many other things he does, and I'm starting to find that I just don't care for him anymore. And I have the same problem...I want to leave him, but I honestly don't think I can get any better, so I've stayed & I keep hoping it'll change, it's been going on for a few months.   I think we need to get out, it's obviously not healthy. Sorry to hear you're going through a similar thing.. I guess it really isn't the best way to be.. if you feel it isn't right.. it's just so difficult to let go of someone.. no matter what they've done, you know? I suppose things just happen how they do, though.. -- Posted by Tarhanosaurus Sexx at 9:03 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Anonymous at 8:54 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Tarhanosaurus Sexx at 8:46 pm on July 3, 2009 Oh dear.    I sort of know how you're feeling.    All me and my boyfriend do at the moment is fight. He's lazy and always lets me down. Like today we were meant to go to the movies, I woke him up at 10am and asked him to start getting ready, he said 'yeah' then went back to sleep...and I'm not going to fucking baby him...so it's 1:40pm we've missed the movie and he's still in bed sleeping. So when he decides to get up, I'm sure we'll have another argument...this is only a small thing, but we planned this at the start of the week, and I've been looking forward to it all week. HOWEVER...if we were gonna have sex, he would have woken up straight away.    There's so many other things he does, and I'm starting to find that I just don't care for him anymore. And I have the same problem...I want to leave him, but I honestly don't think I can get any better, so I've stayed & I keep hoping it'll change, it's been going on for a few months.        I think we need to get out, it's obviously not healthy. Sorry to hear you're going through a similar thing.. I guess it really isn't the best way to be.. if you feel it isn't right.. it's just so difficult to let go of someone.. no matter what they've done, you know? I suppose things just happen how they do, though.. Definatly. And when you've been through a lot with them, it makes it that much harder. -- Posted by 10LOVE10 at 9:19 pm on July 3, 2009 make sure you don't waste time, alot of time, istead, make sure you are working, doing your own thing with him or her, make sure they get their rest, maybe they are just tired, or depress, support them, me and my boyfriend don't see each other alot now, I live with my mom and my older sister, him, with his room mates older than him like 45 years, we see each other and hang out 2-3 times a week, and like after work and my work .  not bad.  I wish we live together thoug.  I am the one who was like, he is going to work and me, I better get up too to work at home, and I was lazy sometimes that is what I am same as what u mention here, I was lazy before too.  Now I am on my own, because I am back sleeping in my mom's house where I live, I use to sleep over in his place, he says if I am there, I bug him and it is better just so I can do my personals too and spa and own time on my own, we all need this.  yoga, pray, sometimes I better ask him to hold hands together and praty together, I think it is awesome :) -- Posted by AndreasMommy at 12:34 am on July 4, 2009 Aw, I'm sorry to hear that. If all you do is argue then that really isn't a relationship that is worth pursuing. If you stay with him you will just get more attached, and the arguments will keep getting worse. Once the chemistry is gone, you can't get it back. I understand how you feel when you say you can't get anyone better but that's just your negative mindset. In reality YOU CAN! You just have to ditch the current boyfriend that you sound miserable with then go out to parties, the mall, with your girlfriends and sooner or later you will meet Mr. Right. Good luck. -- Posted by El Burrito at 4:28 am on July 4, 2009 i was with my last girlfriend for almost 2 and a half years, and when i broke up with her I was in pretty much exactly the same situation as you are - I thought we really should break up but I didnt want to cus it felt like there was no other girls out there for me. that was about 3 months ago, and to be honest I haven't come close to getting a new girlfriend yet but I haven't actually tried at all lol so no surprise but from experience i think you should break up with him if everything you wrote is actually how it is. I'm still not having the best time of my life because of it at the moment, but I still wish I'd broken up with my ex at least 6 months before I did, if not sooner because of all that wasted time. a whole year and a half of uni parties. blah. :D being single isnt as bad as it sounds though, like I said I havent had another girlfriend since or even a date, but I have talked to a lot of girls and had good times with my friends which are 2 things that didnt really happen when I was in a relationship. I think in a few months time when I've got my confidence & ability with the opposite sex back fully it's gonna be great. I bet it would be the same with you too. theres no point sitting in a crap relationship which is only going to get worse at our age (assuming you're roughly a teenager??). I dont see the point in settling for second or worst when you could be much happier with someone you havent met yet. Veeeery long answer. my bad :D 1,111th post haha