-- Posted by jsia at 3:54 am on July 4, 2009 My best mate in the world is 'with' this guy that's 11 years older than us. I say 'with' coz all it is is her going over to his house, getting it on and starting to fall for him. He has never gone out in public with her, she's always going to him. Even before all of this I had a bad feeling about him, just an unexplained gut feeling that he was no good. I thought it was just me being protective of my mate, seeing that he is her first 'fella' (I can't say boyfriend coz that's not what he is. He won't call it a relationship). She's always said that he seems hesitant to get emotionally close to her, and she thought maybe he'd been hurt in the past. About 3 weeks ago she told me that he explained the reason, and she said it was horrible and she couldn't physically repeat it. I didn't push it, I thought maybe he'd been attacked or something else like that. Last night she got really drunk and confessed what the problem was. It was worse than I thought. He's in love with her cousin. Yeah, that's bad aye. Wanna know how it gets worse? She's still going over to his house and sleeping with him! Even after he said he doesn't have feelings for her, and she has said she doesn't want friends with benefits. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THIS GIRL!?!?!??!?! Seriously, I am so fucking mad. Mad at him for leading her on. Mad at her for being so stupid and staying with him. But most of all, mad at myself for not stepping in earlier.     -- Posted by Spice at 3:55 am on July 4, 2009 its not your place to step in. people need to make their own mistakes. -- Posted by FallenLeaves at 3:56 am on July 4, 2009 11 years older? -- Posted by ToyJetpack at 3:56 am on July 4, 2009 Sometimes it's hardest to confront your friends. That's definitely an unhealthy relationship, if it can even be called that. I would certainly advise you to step in on her behalf. -- Posted by jsia at 4:02 am on July 4, 2009 There's nothing I can do now...she just asked me to support her through this, but I can't even speak to her right now, let alone support her. -- Posted by jsia at 4:04 am on July 4, 2009 Oh...she doesn't know I can't speak to her, I've just been avoiding doing so.