-- Posted by Anonymous at 3:56 am on July 4, 2009 i dont know what to do its been over  2 years after we broke up and im having dreams about her. dreams that i wish i didnt have. i cant stop feeling the way i do about her. shes my first true love . and so far shes the only one to. i mean i had other gf just i could never love them the way i did with her i had no feelings for none of them.its like she put a curse on me. idk. n now she smokes too. like a totally different person. yet for some reason every thought of her just comes back. i cant rid her of my mind. anyways i started to talk to her. well really we jus texted, lame i know but talking to her is so nerve wrecking for me. she told me were she worked and when and what time but then she says she doesnt want me to go see her. im confused so i say why. and then she says "theres nothing going to happen between us again and just dont go see me and if i go see her she wont talk to me ever again" so WHY doesnt she want me to see her? its not like im going to ask her out then beg her to come back to me. i really just want to rid these feelings for her. and find a friend in all of that. i dont know whyy? its like shes scared to see me. as if something will happen again and she doesnt want that to happen. i want to leave her alone and jus live my life but ive been trying to do that for the past 2 1/2 years. but i always seem to think of her. i HATE IT!!! idk..maybe if i go see her i will finally lose all my feelings and thoughts of her. and its not like she talks to me anyways. so whats therer to lose? my dignity. ha i lost that two years ago when i tried to get her back. idk please give me some advise!!! -- Posted by FallenLeaves at 3:58 am on July 4, 2009 going to see her is just going to make it worse. try not to think about her, keep yourself occupied, don't sit around and daydream. get a job or something. -- Posted by deuces13 at 4:00 am on July 4, 2009 I know what ur going thru im tired of this bullshit too -- Posted by jsia at 4:01 am on July 4, 2009 I've been in this situation with my ex. We kept texting for 3 years after we broke up (after a spell-period after the break up). Honestly, it's the hardest thing...but if you honestly want to move on with your life, the only way to do this successfully is to cut all ties. Stop texting her. Don't go and see her at work. Honestly, I've been through this and it's now been 3 months since I stopped texting my ex...now I have a new fella comin my way. -- Posted by My Dreams WILL Wait at 4:04 am on July 4, 2009 You need to stop seeing her, don't see her don't talk to her for any reason, delete her number from your phone just for a while now, delete all the texts, everything about her, her email, don't leave any memories... I know it's a lil harsh but you need to do this to get over these feelings, believe me it works. Try to hang out with other people, fill your day with activities and new things to do always, travel if you can, do everything you possible can to get her off your mind. Idk what to tell you, this should work. If you feel like you need to talk about it, I'm here