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-- Posted by aisling1991 at 9:58 am on July 4, 2009

I went out with a guy for 3 years...we broke up in August last year, so it's been ages...he's found it easier to get over it all coz he has loads of friends and they always go out...I haven't, coz I live in the middle of nowhere and it's really hard to get friends to come here or go anywhere to meet them.

So basically, I was thinking that I should burn this box of stuff...it has like, his old boxers in it...drawings I did of him and tickets to things we went to etc.

But I'm not sure...if I burnt it, I'd still have the memories but in a more distant way...like, there'd be nothing physical to it - just in my mind.


-- Posted by Krebons at 9:59 am on July 4, 2009

If there's a chance of you getting back together, don't.


-- Posted by aisling1991 at 10:00 am on July 4, 2009

How do I know if there's a chance?


-- Posted by MajorT0M at 10:00 am on July 4, 2009

No don't.
You'll regret it.


-- Posted by ily13107 at 10:01 am on July 4, 2009

Don't throw them away.  Keep them.
Like, put them in a closet where you'll never see for a long time.  Forget about him.  And soon you'll come across those things and you would be happy to see these memories.

That's what happened to me :D


-- Posted by Just Waiting Here at 10:02 am on July 4, 2009

Well, that's up to you.  I have stuff from my first boyfriend of 1.5 years still... it's not really painful that we broke up for me though, we both went our own ways.  I do have a current boyfriend now... I just keep the stuff from before as memories of my past.

But it depends on what that stuff represents for you.  If it's painful, then maybe you would want to.  But personally, I like to keep things like that as a reminder of my past.


-- Posted by Maxie at 10:02 am on July 4, 2009

Some people like to burn it all (me) since there's no point holding on to the past.
Others like to keep mementos.


-- Posted by JCSkokos at 10:03 am on July 4, 2009

well, i would get rid of the boxers..
but everything else, if you guys end up being friends later i would keep it to make jokes or tell stories about the pictures


-- Posted by mvmassacre at 10:05 am on July 4, 2009

Just put them away somewhere for now.
That's what I'm doing with my ex's things although we weren't together for a long time but there was this deep connection between us that no one knows about... :/


-- Posted by EmilyAnn at 10:54 am on July 4, 2009

Just tuck it away and tape the box shut. In thirty years you'll look back on it and laugh your ass off.


-- Posted by LoveKay at 12:09 pm on July 4, 2009

Get rid of it unless you know you are over him and those things no longer bring back memories or tug at your emotions.


-- Posted by tell me again at 3:09 pm on July 4, 2009

Do you look at those things? You should keep them somewhere where you can't easily look at them, and try not to think about them. You can burn them if you like but I doubt that'd change how you feel, right?


-- Posted by kaylar28 at 8:52 pm on July 4, 2009

It all depends, i think your not ready to do it if thats what you truly want to do. Becasue if you were ready or not doubting yourself then you woulda done it without asking on here. Put them in a box and put them in your closet or something and look at them when your ready or get rid of them when your ready.


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