-- Posted by SparklingFlower at 2:18 pm on July 4, 2009 Ok, so me and my boyfriend have been together about a week. We've known each other 3 years... it's complicated. Anyway, when he was first telling me about his feelings, he was saying a lot, going on and on about how beautiful, amazing, etc. that he thinks I am... Now, sometimes his texts are sort of brief... He'll tell me things like that, but just not as often. He seems bored sometimes. He seems happy with me when we're together, but he isn't gushing his feelings all over the place, like he seemed like he would.. So, I don't know. Are 20 year old guys just typically kind of quiet about their feelings, or is he feeling less into me, now that we're really dating? Should he constantly be telling me how much he's into me, and how happy he is? Or is that sort of an unrealistic expectation on my part? (I hate being insecure..) -- Posted by Complex Kid at 2:19 pm on July 4, 2009 That kind of gushing affection doesn't usually last forever. Eventually the relationship just becomes more routine. People tend to take it for granted after a while, you know. -- Posted by audibleSIN at 2:19 pm on July 4, 2009 He's happy in the place that he's in, that's all. It may dull him a little bit, but just keep it exciting if you want. -- Posted by Sheebobee at 2:20 pm on July 4, 2009 I'm the same way when it comes to guys doing that just understand that its a typical guy thing it has nothing to do with you -- Posted by SparklingFlower at 2:20 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from Complex Kid at 2:19 pm on July 4, 2009 That kind of gushing affection doesn't usually last forever. Eventually the relationship just becomes more routine. People tend to take it for granted after a while, you know. I know.. but it's only been like 5 days of truly being together! I mean, come on! I know we've known each other a long time, but not in this type of setting. -- Posted by MizsAddiction18 at 2:20 pm on July 4, 2009 i was dating a 20 year old when i was 17, he was queit but i think he doesnt feel the need for that anymore cause hes got you already, hat doesnt meen his feelings are less -- Posted by sweetness14 at 2:21 pm on July 4, 2009 just be unpredictable -- Posted by GoodFairy13 at 2:21 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from Complex Kid at 10:19 pm on July 4, 2009 That kind of gushing affection doesn't usually last forever. Eventually the relationship just becomes more routine. People tend to take it for granted after a while, you know. They've been together a week, he should still be pretty happy about it. -- Posted by SparklingFlower at 2:23 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from GoodFairy13 at 2:21 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from Complex Kid at 10:19 pm on July 4, 2009 That kind of gushing affection doesn't usually last forever. Eventually the relationship just becomes more routine. People tend to take it for granted after a while, you know. They've been together a week, he should still be pretty happy about it. So, do you think that he has realized that he doesn't like me as much as he thought?.. -- Posted by GoodFairy13 at 2:31 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from SparklingFlower at 10:23 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from GoodFairy13 at 2:21 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from Complex Kid at 10:19 pm on July 4, 2009 That kind of gushing affection doesn't usually last forever. Eventually the relationship just becomes more routine. People tend to take it for granted after a while, you know.    They've been together a week, he should still be pretty happy about it. So, do you think that he has realized that he doesn't like me as much as he thought?.. I dunno, just have a friendly word? I don't know him so I can't pass judgement, it could be that he's just not very affectionate, or he's nervous. -- Posted by DangerouslyDisturbed at 2:36 pm on July 4, 2009 If its only been a week I wouldn't worry. I'd wait a while, see what happens -- Posted by tell me again at 3:00 pm on July 4, 2009 Since you've known each other for ages, he's probably settled in to the idea of having you around and feels less gushy. I don't think many people compliment their girl all the time though. -- Posted by hithere at 3:38 pm on July 4, 2009 ok seriously there's a middle ground between "being sick of you" and "gushing his feelings all over the place" -- Posted by kaylar28 at 8:44 pm on July 4, 2009 He probably feels that he doesnt have to tell you all the time..Give it awhile and if its still bugging you talk to him, because i can relate to a point because my boyfriend used to be super mushy then he stopped and i told him it bugged me because he cant just act one way then act the complete opposite and not expect me to think somethings wronng