-- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 1:40 pm on July 5, 2009 So I'm just sitting here at my sister's house, on my boyfriend's msn, debating whether or not I should send one of his friend's a message to try and talk to my boyfriend (he's at his friend's house). I kind of really want to hang out with him, since we haven't hung out together on a weekend for like, 3 weekends now--he's been with his friends. I don't mind him hanging out with his friends, but I'd like a weekend with him too, and it appears that he might be planning next weekend with them too. It's even more frustrating since earlier this weekend he SAID he'd hang out with me.  I didn't make him promise anything, because I figured he'd want to change his mind when the time came--and he did--but I was still hoping he'd keep his word and hang out with me. But I don't want to message him because I talked to him last night by some miracle chance of events.  But I really want him to come pick me up and hang out with me.  But I'm afraid if I message then he's going to get an attitude and I don't want to deal with that. Grrr....I know it's a minor dilemma, but when there's not much else to do or ponder on, it just gets to me. So, to message, or not to message.  That is the question.   -- Posted by SpRiNgS at 1:41 pm on July 5, 2009 simple answer: message -- Posted by gief at 1:42 pm on July 5, 2009 i say message him/ tell him you want to spend some more time together. otherwise youll start master debating with yourself. -- Posted by Soul Sista at 1:51 pm on July 5, 2009 Just message him. He needs to make time for you too. I feel your pain. my boyfriend has hung out with his friends all this week. Yesterday he was out of town, but he did get back in time to watch fireworks with me. I figured we could hang out today, but again, he's with his friends. -- Posted by chikichicky at 2:18 pm on July 6, 2009 I think it's probably a good idea just to leave him be for now. Have a talk with him later after he gets home about how much it would mean for you to spend an entire day together alone. I think it's good to have an even mix of hanging out with friends, family and significant other. If he's spending more time with his friends than he is with you, maybe you can find out the reason why. Let him know that you miss him and wish to spend some more time with him. Work out some sort of compromise that both of you can agree to. For example, maybe he's avoiding spending time with you because he doesn't get to do the things he normally does with his guy friends. If it's something like playing video games, then maybe one of those nights you and him could try out a game together. You could get him to teach you if he has that sort of patience. The next time he could do something you want to do like an afternoon walking around at the beach.