-- Posted by dancetillyadrop at 6:36 pm on July 6, 2009 I know who I am, I know who I was, and I have no intention of being who I was, because "who I am hates who I've been." I made huge mistakes in the past and instead of regretting them, I'm letting them stay in the past and not worrying about them anymore. Typically when I'm around someone who I was best friends with before and kind of lost touch with, I'm completely okay being the person that I am now. They're a little suprised, but they realize that we all change and that the change I made in myself was for the better. But when I'm around one of my past and now current best friends, I start to be the person I was. I don't know what it is about her, but its like she brings out that person and I don't know why. I know what you're thinking "Then just don't be friends with her...!" Not going to happen, we were best friends my eighth grade year/her seventh grade year and when I went to high school we lost touch and last year through my Sophomore year/her Freshman year we weren't really as close. It was during the time between February 2008-Janruary 2009 I went through this huge change, and now it's like when her and I hang out like we did today, I notice the person I was starting to come out and I don't want that. What can I do to make it stop and show her the real, new me? -- Posted by TDC at 12:48 am on July 7, 2009 The best approach would be to make a list of the traits from your prior personality and your new one.  Then use that list to figure out what about your friend brings on that specific trait from your (Prior Self) List.  If this new personality is who you want to be then just acting like yourself should be enough.  If you have to continuously correct yourself you might want to think on whether this is who you are.. or who you want to be. -- Posted by StraitjacketJunky at 10:44 pm on July 7, 2009 I'm assuming you're just not used to the change. She hasn't been introduced to the "new you", and you don't know how to introduce your new self. Maybe you're afraid of the change, or that you'll lose your friend. Feel free to PM me about this any time.