-- Posted by Anonymous at 9:41 am on July 10, 2009 My mother is very controlling. If she doesn't get every little thing her way, she will go off. If you say one little thing wrong, she'll go off. And this isn't just at me, this is at my step dad as well. They have been married for 5 years and my mom has always been like this, but over the past year she has gotten much worse. And when she goes off, she REALLY goes off. She starts yelling, throwing things. One time, the neighbors called to ask if everything was alright. Just last night, it was my mothers birthday party and she told (read: yelled) my step dad to leave her party because of the stupidest thing. I am witnessing this and can tell you for a fact that he didn't do anything wrong. My step dad is seriously considering getting a divorce, and I don't want that to happen. My mom refuses to see a physiologist or anything. -- Posted by Just Add Water at 6:00 pm on July 10, 2009 It's seems like you are in quite a pickle.  I know how controlling mothers can be, but this is a bit overboard.  You say she refuses to go to a physiologist-- do you know this for certain or is it merely an assumption? Have you tried talking to your mother? Granted, she might go off on you, but getting her to see things from your perspective might help.  Maybe she doesn't know just how controlling she is.   I'm no doctor, but it does sound like something might be medically wrong here. Disorders such as bipolar disorder or manic depression can cause extreme outbursts, such as those you describe your mother as having.  If she refuses to go there sadly isn't much you can do to force her.  Obviously, she's an adult and makes her own decisions-- wrong or not.   In the meantime talk to your step dad about this. You and him might be able to get across to your mother, together.  Talk to other family members-- anyone who might be able to help. I'm sorry I can't give you any better advice than this, but honestly ,I'm not sure what else you can do.  Hopefully there will be others on this site who can advise you better. Either way, I wish you the best of luck, and get the help you and your mom needs. Best Wishes, Sam