-- Posted by islandfaraway at 11:03 am on July 10, 2009 so im dating my best friend. i really love her so much as my best friend. i think i could be in love with her as my girlfriend too, but im hesitant to say that because i dont want to be wrong. i love being with her, and i need her touch like a drug. when im not with her i get like, withdrawal from her ha. which might sound ridiculous but its serisously like i cant breathe when i think about her if its been too long since ive seen her. i love her. i need her. and she feels the same about me. its absolutely perfect. except one thing.. my parents liked her alot when we were just friends. but they think its wrong that we're dating just because we're both girls. they told me i either have to change or get out of the house and they'll cut me off completely. they wont pay for my college or anything or let me live here. i cant afford the college im starting at this fall, so i need them. and i refuse to leave the family because it will hurt my parents and my little brother who i care about more than anything in the world. its so incredibly hard for us to keep dating and seeing each other in secret. i only get to see her once or twice a week and starting this fall we will be going to college 8 hours apart from each other, which is going to suck. im not really sure what im looking for here, i guess if anyone has any ideas about how to get my parents to understand, thatd be awesome. or if anyone knows how to make this even a little bit easier. idk. i love her, and all i want is to just see her more often and for my parents to be okay with us dating. thats probably alot to ask, but i feel like thats what i need to be happy. idk. sooo.. thats it.. thanks ahead of time to anyone who posts or wants to talk to me. -- Posted by Cum Goblin at 11:05 am on July 10, 2009 that's just how it is in middleton -- Posted by Karyssia at 11:05 am on July 10, 2009 If they really loved you they will accept who you want, man or woman. They should be happy you wont be getting pregnant and ruining your life :) -- Posted by snipercrew at 11:11 am on July 10, 2009 i know what u mean -- Posted by Just Waiting Here at 11:12 am on July 10, 2009 It's a tough situation to be in, and many people just don't accept same-sex relationships.  You may be able to talk to your parents, but they also may not want to listen. There's no easy solution to this, and it really depends on you.  It's horrible that you have to be placed in this spot, and it's essentially forcing you to choose between two groups of people that you really care about... and I can't tell you what to do. For some, the family is extremely important, and if they aren't happy, then they will never be happy themselves.  For others, giving up the person that they think they may spend the rest of their lives with is impossible. I will tell you this... 8 hours apart is extremely difficult.  You're both going in to college, and you will bot get the opportunity to meet several new people.  And from personal experience, long distance relationships are extremely hard.  That doesn't mean it's impossible, mine worked out... but mine was only for 9 months.  If you are both starting college... this is a four year commitment (two, if you're going to a two year college).  Have you considered what it would be like to be long distance for four years?  And when youg et back together, will you guys still be the same as what you remember? And you may say, "well, I can just transfer schools if it reaches that point", and that's something to consider.  But does that school have what you're looking for?  Can you transfer your courses?  Can you afford to go there?  Is that place right for you? I really want you to consider all of these things.  Try not to just think now... but thing in the future.  I'm not saying you shouldn't try the relationship, I am saying that you should consider it completely.  It's hard... and I'm in no position to tell you what's right for ~you~.   Think about it... seriously think about.  Who knows, maybe she is just a great friend to you and your emotions don't extend into that of a relationship.  But maybe she's someone that could be a lifelong partner as well.  But as I said before, long distance is tough.  Love isn't the only thing that will keep the relationship together... it's hard when you can't be together and harder still when you're starting college and you're both going to be developing rapidly and finding out who you are and what you want to do with your life.  You may find that during college, you are no longer compatible... you may find that you're closer.  Who knows... Just think it over, that's the best I could tell you :).  I wish I had a "this is the right answer" or "do this, and everything will be perfect", but it's not like that.  At the end of the day, just try to make the decision you won't regret... or at least the one you'll regret the least :). -- Posted by Kaijuu at 11:19 am on July 10, 2009 be with her in secret let themm pay for your colllege then tell them you were withe her all alone and fuck them and whatnot -- Posted by Stormblazer at 11:30 am on July 10, 2009 Unfortunately, I've found it's pretty hard to convince people on this kind of thing if they're so set against it, especially if they're paying for college tuition and such =/ It's stupid, but you're pretty much stuck with having to date in secret. Personally I'm thankful I have understanding parents, though part of that may be that in my case, it's not sexuality that's so different but rather the entire relationship paradigm itself.