-- Posted by jsia at 3:18 pm on July 10, 2009 I'm curious to know at what stage someone is cheating. I have a theory... -- Posted by Slim Shady at 3:18 pm on July 10, 2009 all of that -- Posted by Cum Goblin at 3:18 pm on July 10, 2009 makeoout -- Posted by Mikoto at 3:19 pm on July 10, 2009 kissing at the least -- Posted by Dont Notice Me at 3:19 pm on July 10, 2009 when you have to ask -- Posted by Uptown Swag at 3:19 pm on July 10, 2009 Kissing, but liking someone else is kinda too. -- Posted by melodramatic at 3:19 pm on July 10, 2009 All of the above. -- Posted by ViLE at 3:19 pm on July 10, 2009 To me it isnt cheating unless it's mental. All physical things dosent bother me. -- Posted by Mods1Blow2Me3Daily at 3:19 pm on July 10, 2009 oral given my me to a girl and fingering is fair game. intercourse i cheating -- Posted by Lindz13 at 3:20 pm on July 10, 2009 well to me its physical and emotional... -- Posted by craziredbeauty13 at 3:20 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from dont notice me at 4:19 pm on July 10, 2009 when you have to ask i like -- Posted by ificanscream at 3:20 pm on July 10, 2009 kissing. -- Posted by ily13107 at 3:21 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from Alexia at 6:19 pm on July 10, 2009 To me it isnt cheating unless it's mental. All physical things dosent bother me. So if your boyfriend were to have sex with another guy, it wouldn't bother you? -- Posted by KeiraOasis at 3:22 pm on July 10, 2009 Ok. I managed to convince myself after i had cheated, that if someone kissed me and i didnt return the kiss, technically i wasnt chaeting. But it is. If your thinking about someone else sexually, desire them, its not cheating but you need to seriously question why your in a relationship with someone else. -- Posted by Psycloner at 3:22 pm on July 10, 2009 Definately kissing.. if it's passionate or anything other than friejndly. imo. -- Posted by Elizabeth1114 at 3:22 pm on July 10, 2009 all the above -- Posted by Total Destruction at 3:23 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from Mods1Blow2Me3Daily at 3:19 pm on July 10, 2009 oral given my me to a girl and fingering is fair game. intercourse i cheating Umm... what? -- Posted by w04hs3xy at 3:24 pm on July 10, 2009 i think starting at kissing. -- Posted by Kaijuu at 3:25 pm on July 10, 2009 kissing -- Posted by jsia at 3:26 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from dont notice me at 8:19 am on July 11, 2009 when you have to ask Lol it's not for my own information, see the OP, "I have a theory..." -- Posted by yssuPevoLI at 3:29 pm on July 10, 2009 any of the above is cheating -- Posted by richteabiscuits at 3:29 pm on July 10, 2009 Kissing I guess. Liking someone isn't cheating at all... -- Posted by See Me Now at 3:32 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from Slim Shady at 3:18 pm on July 10, 2009 all of that This. -- Posted by Stormblazer at 3:49 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from jsia at 4:18 pm on July 10, 2009 I'm curious to know at what stage someone is cheating. I have a theory... I'm an unusual case, so leave me out of your theory: 1. If they're lying to me about it, then even liking someone qualifies as cheating, though not nearly so severe as, say, sex. I value honesty. I don't care if you like someone else as well, I might even encourage you if I like that person too. But don't lie to me about it. 2. If you're not lying to me, but you do something reckless with another person, I consider that cheating but a far lesser form of it than anything in #1. Lying is the greatest offense, period. #2 I can almost certainly forgive. And if the whole thing is in the open and known, there's nothing to forgive in the first place. #1 is harder. I need to know I can trust someone to be honest with me, and that includes friends. How can I trust anyone, whether it's a salesman or my closest lover, if they can't be truthful? On the flipside, being honest earns my trust and respect, and hopefully vice-versa. To illustrate the above: Let's say you've got a crush on someone else, and want to get to know them better. The only way you could cause issue at this point is if you don't let me know about it or lie about it. Likewise if I did the same I would let you know. If you lie about it though, you've done damage already - any relationship should be in some part founded on honesty. If you did something reckless at this point, such has having sex without getting to know them first, but still told me I'd be a little upset but it could be worked out. Beyond that it depends on the details of the relationship. If you weren't honest with the other person it would also make it a bigger issue. Now, if you did something and then lied to me about it, reckless or not, you've just just done severe damage. This is the point at which I consider cheating as bad as most people do in normal circumstances, if not worse. Ideally, all information about what's going on should be in the open. I don't have the right to control someone else in a relationship any more than they have a right to control me, but honesty is a fair expectation to have.