-- Posted by ferakin at 10:20 am on July 11, 2009 So he goes to an exam, and I go to the gym. It`s obvious I will finish around the time he finishes his 2-hour exam. I phone him, and he tells me he`s already gone home. Is this thoughtless? Or am I over reacting? And I  was the one who phoned! He never phones me, I always have to phone him. And he never tells me his plans. Am I being controlling? Or is this justified, since I AM in a foreign country and living with him? It annoys me -- Posted by LoveKay at 10:22 am on July 11, 2009 So what if he has gone home already? I don't get what the problem is--did you two have plans together for afterwards? If not, then yes, you are definitely overreacting! -- Posted by ferakin at 10:23 am on July 11, 2009 But should he not have at least mentioned it? It was pretty obvious I was going to wait around for him if we finished at the same time -- Posted by Spice at 10:23 am on July 11, 2009 I think kind of, unless you find it difficult to get back to his. If you're in a foreign country, it would be nice for him to be a bit more considerate. -- Posted by Spice at 10:24 am on July 11, 2009 Quote: from ferakin at 6:23 pm on July 11, 2009 But should he not have at least mentioned it? It was pretty obvious I was going to wait around for him if we finished at the same time its not necessarily obvious. you shouldn't just assume just things -- men don't think that way -- Posted by ferakin at 10:32 am on July 11, 2009 Quote: from Spice at 10:24 am on July 11, 2009 Quote: from ferakin at 6:23 pm on July 11, 2009 But should he not have at least mentioned it? It was pretty obvious I was going to wait around for him if we finished at the same time its not necessarily obvious. you shouldn't just assume just things -- men don't think that way indeed, men are generally much more thoughtless. but i just think it would be nice if he even considered me! sometimes i just dont get it. hes a lot busier than me, with work and classes, but sometimes really unthoughtful. even littler stuff like not saying thankyou for some sweets i just bought him, or not saying please when he wants something. i realise sometimes i overreact, but i dont think this is necessarily overreacting? -- Posted by Spice at 10:35 am on July 11, 2009 I think the best thing to do is to voice these concerns to him, just say you feel a little underappreciated and it would be nice to be recognised and thought of every so often, and that you recognise he leads a busy life -- Posted by LoveKay at 11:01 am on July 11, 2009 Quote: from ferakin at 11:23 am on July 11, 2009 But should he not have at least mentioned it? It was pretty obvious I was going to wait around for him if we finished at the same time Don't assume. He obviously didn't. Men don't generally need to spend every possible moment with their girlfriends.