-- Posted by pntpstlprncss05 at 11:10 pm on Feb. 22, 2006 OK my roommates are literally driving me up the wall. I share a suite with 3 other girls. 2 of these girls were 2 of my closest friends from high school and the other I barely knew (but now we're super close). Well one of the girls who was probably my best friend from all 4 years of high school has a very conservative boyfriend who has pretty much changed her views on life. Well she is constantly getting pissed at me for whatever I do. Like at the beginning of the semester we made this rule that no boys would ever stay the night in our dorm (even though she was the only one in our dorm who cared whether or not they were over at all). Well last night my boyfriend was over and wasn't able to get back home so I had him stay over. Well she found out and is now really angry. She's been mad at me for other stuff that I've done this semester too, like going out to parties and stuff. What really pisses me off is that none of this is her business. Whatever I do with my personal life is my deal and she shouldn't worry about it. I should be allowed to have anyone I want spend the night in my room because it is my personal room that I'm paying for. I am sooo pissed because I am a person that hates conflict and there has been nothing but conflict all freakin school year long. The first semester it stressed me out so much I could barely eat. I pretty much don't care what she thinks anymore because I have made a lot of new friends that support me no matter what I do and who also think she's a huge bitch (hahaha) but I mean... I still hate living somewhere where there is always conflict. Ahhhhhhhh.... sorry I really really needed to vent this out to people who understand :) -- Posted by MoonlitEden at 11:12 pm on Feb. 22, 2006 I agree that none of the stuff happening outside the home is her business, but this rule you guys all agreed on is her business.  You should have spoken to her before your boyfriend spent the night.  When you agreed on the rule, you agreed to follow it, no matter how dumb the rule is. -- Posted by feelinGroovy at 11:23 pm on Feb. 22, 2006 thats bullshit. You need to tell her straight up to go fuck herself. She has no right to try and control you or judge you for the way you live. going out to parties? wow thats such a fucking crime. talk to her about it,and if she still chooses to be a prissy little bitch then forget she lives there,ignore her,shes no friend of yours. -- Posted by babybluegirl18 at 3:47 am on Feb. 23, 2006 he had an reason -- Posted by dude69 at 5:45 am on Feb. 23, 2006 maybe shes trying to help -- Posted by pntpstlprncss05 at 9:42 am on Feb. 23, 2006 Well the thing is, I don't think that she understands that I'm really not a bad roommate. I clean up after myself, I don't eat her food, I'm not loud, I respect her space, and up until now, I've followed all her stupid rules even thought I don't agree with them. I've kicked out friends after we went to parties because I didn't want to start trouble or betray anyone's trust. I know people who have terrible roommates who keep them up all night being loud and who never do chores or anything like that. I have followed her rules for a semester and a half and I feel like for the last two months, things should be run everyone elses way (because everyone else thinks the rule is dumb). And I didn't just break the rule for no reason, I had a reason, my boyfriend couldn't get home. Anyways I guess I have two months left to live with her and then it's over so I guess I can handle it... -- Posted by MoonlitEden at 10:05 am on Feb. 23, 2006 You shouldn't have to handle it.  You should talk to her and let her know that you think the rule is dumb and that you udon't feel like you should follow it.  What I said above was that you shouldn't have let him stay over, until you talked to her first, since you did agree to that rule.  You could have told her that he was staying because he had no way to get home, and that she would have to get over it.   -- Posted by sponge at 12:06 pm on Feb. 23, 2006 are u amd today do u want to talk -- Posted by myclosetproject at 3:06 pm on Feb. 23, 2006 I had a really bad roommate and I just learned to live through it :(  I know that some people have said that you shouldn't have to and that you should stick up for yourself but it could make it worse and if you only have two months left, I would just stick it out and keep being yourself...  Just think, once you're done, you can move on and find someone better to live with! A piece of advice - never, ever move in with a girlfriend you've had for a long time... It never seems to work out   -- Posted by pntpstlprncss05 at 2:28 pm on Feb. 26, 2006 Ha yeah I definitely agree with that piece of advice... well me and my other roommate, who I get along with great and who feels the same way as I do about this situation, are going to organize a meeting with all the roommates and we're going to talk it out. And if it doesn't work out.... you're right... first week in May I'm outta here so I really don't have that much longer. -- Posted by little caesar at 8:20 pm on Feb. 26, 2006 keep your head up you def seem that your a strong person that you can handle the problem -- Posted by stene at 1:38 pm on Feb. 28, 2006 Quote: from myclosetproject at 5:06 pm on Feb. 23, 2006 A piece of advice - never, ever move in with a girlfriend you've had for a long time... It never seems to work out   I agree 100%.  I did that and I'm paying big time this year.  And it sucks- because I like to have a little fun- and she doesn't.  But I thought our friendship would make it- well it's not.  So lesson learned for all of us, and at least the end of the year is fastly approaching..... -- Posted by pntpstlprncss05 at 11:02 am on Mar. 2, 2006 Hey everyone! Thanks so much for all your help. We all got together and talked and changed the "rules" of the dorm. Now everything is getting better. I'll admit I like to spend a lot of time away from my dorm but it is definitely bareable nowadays. Anyways yah... thanks for everything :)