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-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:30 pm on April 4, 2006 While we invite you to use the forum to ask your questions, please be sure to check out this thread as your question may be a frequently asked one. We have compiled those questions that are asked the most, and along with their answers, placed them here for you to look over. If you see your question (or one similar to yours) please only post a new topic if your question isn't fully answered by those here. If you would like to contribute to this FAQ, or have a suggestion for an addition to the FAQ, please message one of the Teen Sexuality Moderators - W0lf, Rastafarian, and bri872002 or the College Sexuality Moderator - Editor in Chief. Female Sex-Related Questions (Originally compiled and maintained by penguincube and wmudude. Edited by circa, Annastasia and The Professional)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:36 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: How do I perform oral sex on a girl? A: This is for anyone who is thinking about going down on a girl for the first time, or has done so in the past and would like to improve their technique. First of all, you have to know what you're doing down there. I'm talking navigation. There is NO way you are going to satisfy a girl without knowing the basics about her anatomy. You, as a guy, have this whole big giant penis, which is pretty rudimentary - basic - not hard to figure out. Girls have flaps and holes and hair and it is completely understandable if you look at it and get a little confused! Each girl looks very different in her pubic region. It's doubtful you'll ever see two that are quite the same. Some girls are very hairy and some have hardly any hair at all. Some girls shave, some don't. (Please don't ever ask a girl to shave. If she's willing to do it on her own, fine.) The inner lips, the labia minora, can look very different on different girls. On some they are very small, and on some they are of medium size, and on some they are large and protrude past the outer lips (labia). Basically, you are best to learn the relation of where the clitoris is in relation to the vaginal opening and the inner lips, this will be your best navigational tool. Ok, so now that you know where you're going, it's important to learn what to do to get there. First of all, don't just dive straight into it. If she is like me, and in my "research" (i.e. College) most girls are, she will desire a considerable amount of foreplay. Not only is this necessary to turn her on, it is to your advantage. You don't want to be down there so long your tongue starts cramping up or something. Seriously spend about 10-15 minutes kissing her, her neck, her breasts, her shoulders, etc. Be tender, don't hump her leg or anything, and don't insist that she pay any attention to you and your throbbing member. Remember, you are doing this for her, right? Give her this undivided attention. She will make it up to you! If you really want to drive her crazy with lust, during this foreplay, don't touch her clitoris or vagina. Think about when you're horny, how much you want your penis touched, how much you yearn for it to be touched when it's hard, and how good it feels when you finally touch it. This basic premise also applies to a woman. During foreplay, don't touch it. It's as simple as that. One thing my fiancé does that drives me insane while we're in foreplay is to take two fingers, and run them from back to front, each finger in one of the creases between my inner thigh and outer lips, not quite near my vagina, but in a sensitive area. It makes me quiver with yearning, seriously. Give it a go. OK, so now, she's wet, writhing, horny, and begging for you to touch it. Slowly, work your way down. When you get there, again, don't go for the trophy right away. Lay some soft kisses on that same crease between thigh and outer lips I mentioned above. Nuzzle your nose into her pubic hair, and breathe through your mouth onto her genitals (this feels divine). If she is grinding her hips a little, you know you are definitely on the right track. Now, finally, lay your tongue onto her clitoris. Start with little licks with the tip of your tongue. Find a rhythm, but don't stick with the same thing too long. One good thing I've heard to do is to "write" the letters of the alphabet with your tongue on her clitoris. Eventually you will want to get into a bit more of a rhythm and increase your pace. Reach up and play with her breasts, run your hands down her leg, even insert a finger into her vagina. And, speaking of vagina, don't be afraid to "tongue-fuck" her. Basically, take your tongue, and stick it in her vagina as far as you can get it, and move it in and out a few times. This feels sublime for the girl, like nothing else you could imagine. But don't forget, it's that clitoris that will give her the orgasm, so get back there! Basically remember - not too hard, not too soft, and ask for her input! Tell her that if she can tell you what to do, it will make it easier for you to please her, and it will turn you on too (even if that's not entirely true...).
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:37 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: How old were you when you lost your virginity? A: The average reply to this question is 14-16 years of age. Note: This statistic is nothing more than the average of LW members who voted in this poll. There is no set limit on what age you "should" lose your virginity. Some of the people surveyed also said they regretted losing it so young, so it is more important to lose your virginity when you're mentally and physically ready, as well as having found the right person, whatever age that may be; younger than you or older than you.
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:39 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: Should I shave my pubic hair? A: One member states: "Trim it if its long and in the way, but dont shave; ingrown hairs will be a bitch if you shave. As a personal preference, it just seems gross......I prefer hair; little kids have no hair down there, older people do.....thats how it is and should be." Another member shares: " I shave mine and my girlfriend likes it that way. Now that I got used to shaving it, I do it about once a month and I feel much cleaner down there after shaving it. But I gotta tell ya, it takes a little bit of time to get used to because it will itch like heck the first several times...but after you get used to it, you'll like it and wouldn't be able to stand the hair like it's right now, so it prob will become a lifestyle." To prevent ingrown hair, buy one of those scrubbies and scrub against the direction of hair growth to open up the follicals. Do not shave against the hair growth, if you do, you'll definitely get ingrown hair because it'll shave the hair so close that it gets trapped under the skin and keep growing under the skin. Dont shave that close, just shave with the hair direction and it wont be as itchy.
(Courtesy of bravesfan and SnowMonkey)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:40 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: How do I give a guy oral sex? (Commonly referred to as head, blow job etc.) A: JennyColada and wmudude are the experts on this: - Tongue is good. Kind of like how fingers work with a hand job. A guy's dick has a WHOLE LOT of sensors on it (especially on the head). The more sensors that you activate the better it feels. It you move your tongue around a lot then it touches a whole lot of different places really quickly. - Touch places that don't normally get touched. You also might want to concentrate on certain places of the dick. Here are a few that you might want to try: The ridge (you know how the tip kind of looks like a mushroom: the underside of the top of the mushroom is what I mean by "the ridge", the base (the spot closest to where the dick connects to the guys pelvis), the very tip of the head (especially near the opening). When you touch any place on someone's body that normally doesn't get touched the nerves go crazy. - Be sure to keep it lubricated. To any dick...dryness is the devil. Since it has more sensors and nerves than most places on our body, the dick is very sensitive. This is good because the slightest touch can feel amazing, but also if something is rough (i.e. because of a lack of lubrication) it can feel uncomfortable. So...spit is your friend. Don't worry about it getting too lubricated. - Suck a little. You don't want to try to rip it off, but if you suck it applies a little bit of pressure that can feel really good. - Don't think that you have to fit the whole thing in your mouth all of the time. You want to alternate where you put the sensation. Kind of like when you rub one place on your arm for a really long time. It gets kind of boring after a while...right? Well, sometimes you want to move from your upper arm to your lower arm, and that can feel really great. It's the same concept. Sometimes it's good to "go deep" but other times it's great to stay at the head. - Pay attention to body language. If the guy thrusts, then that's a good sign. It means that he likes it. By paying attention to his "pleasure movements" you will eventually figure out exactly what it is he enjoys. - You might want to try playing, licking, or sucking (gently) on his balls as well. The outside of his testicles are a network of many nerves that can easily be stimulated by a light touch, brush, or blow. - Right underneath his balls, where his sac meets his thigh, there is a muscle called the PC muscle. If you push or rub on this when he's close to ejaculating, you can slow the process down and even stop it if you don't want him to ejaculate just yet. This also has multiple nerve endings in it that are stimulated when touched. --- Here is more advice from JennyColada and wmudude regarding good oral sex: From JennyColada: You should decide whether or not you want to swallow (or "spit"). It's totally not required, and any guy should be happy just to get the attention he's getting. But if you'd feel open to trying it, it's a huge turn on for most guys. I think that's because it's something that can be seen as a little 'dirty', which plays with their heads. Guys sometimes see their girlfriends as innocent little angels, and it just kind of teases their imagination to have you do something like that. Here is a guide for time. Some girls aren't sure what to do in what order. So here is a good guideline. You don't HAVE to do this...you can do whatever you feel comfortable with. I'm sure that he'll LOVE it. But this is a good guideline to go by. What I would recommend is to unbutton his pants and pull them down a little, like down to his knees. Then tease him a little. Like touch "him" with your hands, very lightly. So that it's almost a tickle. While you're tickling start to blow on his penis lightly, this is when you should pull down his boxers. Then, when he's "exposed", lightly run your fingers up his thighs and over his balls and lightly touch his penis. Then, when he reeeeally wants it start to kiss the head of his penis. Then tease him a little with your lips and tongue. Just lightly running your tongue up and down his penis. This is where I would recommend starting the extreme ickyness action. If you haven't noticed...there is a lot of teasing going on here. Also, the question about how experienced your boyfriend is comes into the ejaculation question. Maybe that is why he took a while to cum. Has he had sex before? The farther someone goes (sexually) the less good stuff feels "below" their sexual status. Like...my boyfriend doesn't really think hand-jobs feel that good anymore because he's felt better stuff. And most importantly... Be comfortable with yourself. It's your uncomfortable or embarrassed, he'll know, and it won't feel all good for either of you (if I give a good bj it's a big turn on to me). Just remember that since it's you, (and as long as you don't bite it off) no matter what you do will be wonderful! It should never feel like a "job," you should both have fun and enjoy yourselves! From wmudude: While his erect penis points toward the ceiling, cup his balls in one hand and gently, using only your tongue, lick softly, but carefully along the entire underside of his erect organ. As you suck along the underbelly you will learn those areas that give him the greatest pleasure when your tongue is touching them. Unless he is made of stone, your partner will provide you with vivid clues as to which areas are most pleasurable. As you discover these areas of enhanced pleasure concentrate on them. For most men the most sensitive area will be the point where the ring (or corona) of the head and the foreskin are attached. Or were attached prior to his circumcision. By continued licking and tapping along this area with your tongue you are going to bring forth a geyser. If you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry I suggest that you get him off in this manner in order to become familiar at first hand with the nature and delight of his climax. As he is getting ready for climax you will note changes in his penis. These signs will be the same every time he climaxes so that you can prepare for his ejaculate properly. The head of the cock may swell somewhat larger then it is during the normal course of his erection. He may thrust his hips forward as he wants to send his body hurtling out his cock with his cum. And for most men, immediately prior to the cum, there will appear at the tiny, lovely lips at the tip of the cock a clear drop or two of fluid. When you see this or feel the opening at the meateus through his condom (if he's wearing one) you know that the moment of truth is at hand. Place his stiff cock inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion. The cock will slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the circle motion. Watch your teeth on this one. A kneeling position will suffice but it is also effective when your partner is on his back and your head is directly over his cock. The circle should be executed in both clockwise and counterclockwise motions in a slow purposeful manner. One of the first things you encountered when you first started to suck cock was a gag reflex. Consider for a moment that the average length of your oral cavity is three to three and a half inches while the average cock length is five to five and a half inches. The laws of nature would seem to dictate that getting all that cock into your mouth is an impossibility. The biggest obstacle to taking all of his cock down your throat is the fact that there is a bend of almost ninety degrees behind your tongue leading down into your throat. So the first thing to do is get the cock past that angle. In order to practice this, get in a position where you can turn your head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line. The best position to accomplish this is to lie on a bed so that your head is near the edge with your body sprawled across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply back. This position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a line and will allow your partner to approach you in such a way that insertion of his cock can be made so deeply that his pubic hair presses against your lips. (Courtesy of JennyColada and wmudude))
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:40 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: Can masturbating too much damage and/or bend my penis, or damage and/or change my vagina? A: In short, no. There are many concerns when it comes to masturbating, such as physical damage, causing the growth of hair on the palm of your hand, etc., and these are basically all myths.
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:41 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: My partner wants me to do engage in a sexual activity, but I don't know if I should and/or I feel a little uncomfortable. I love him/her, but I don't know if I am ready. A: Never do anything that you don't want to, or are not ready to, otherwise you will end up regretting it later. Only do what you are comfortable with, and make sure your partner knows how you feel about the situation and make sure you know how they feel. Communication is the key to a successful sexual relationship.
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:41 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: How do I know if I or my girlfriend had an orgasm? A: One member states: Your question is a good one. Many people believe that an orgasm is always like something you see in porno movies, or the scene from the movie When Harry Met Sally. Many ordinary women have orgasms with shouting, gasping, racing pulse, strong muscular contractions and vaginal spasms, but many do not. Some are subtle, less obvious orgasms that may not be recognized. The woman may only experience a warm feeling and a flushed appearance, or light-headedness. Basically an orgasm represents a build up of tension in the body, and a release of that tension. Even women who have the more obvious types often have the less obvious, based on their emotional state, fatigue, etc. There is no good or bad orgasm. Many women who believe that they do not have orgasms, just may not recognize that they have. Orgasm should not be a goal to be reached. Too often sex can be frustrating because one or both of the partners is focused on an orgasm, as opposed to enjoying the experience itself. The less you worry about an orgasm, the more likely you are to reach one. Another member says: You'll feel a build up in tension until it gets to an extreme point and all of a sudden it lets go. that's when you get your orgasm. You'll most likely feel slightly breathless afterwards and your muscles will relax and go slack after all the contracting that led up to the orgasm. this is so the wrong word but it'll feel kind of a like an 'explosion' down there. You will know when you have one. (Courtesy of JoPel and blinkbabe)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:42 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: What are some female masturbation techniques? A: One member offers this advice: Electric Toohtbrush: Ok there are several things you can do with this. You can plug it in and just use the end of it the handle part not the toothbrush (obviously) and it works as a vibrator or if you want it can be a vibrating dildo. Another thing you can do is plug in the toothbrush turn it on and stick it between two pillows. It will vibrate and you stradle the top pillow and rock back and forth it will work good as well. Hot Tub: For this you basically position yourself so that the jet is like maybe 6 inches away from you so you dont get the full blast just the effect from a little of a distance. You can get a similar effect from in a bathub filling up a squirt bottle with water and squeezing it at yourself under the water. Imagine that but alot better. But remember most importantly do not just sit on the jets or something position yourself away from them a little. Improvised Dildos: Here is where you can be creative. You can use just about anything you can think of to improvise. Small conditioner bottles, flashlights, even vegitables like cucumbers and stuff. I must stress this though, make sure it's clean!! If possible clean whatever it is off and then put a condom on it. But you can be creative with this and there are a million things out there you can use. Pillows: I stated the best pillow one above where you use something that vibrates (ex: electric toothbrush) and put it between a few pillows and basically you rock back and forth on the pillow while straddling it. You can do this without something vibrating underneath them but the effect is better if there is. Washing machine: This one is pretty obvious. Basically you sit on top of the washnig machine as it goes into spin cycle. If its anything like my washing machine it will shake and vibrate alot. It's pretty simple you just sit on top of it and off it goes. Not the best method but it works from what i have heard. I hope this info has helped you out. Maybe it will open up some new creative and wonderful things to some of you. Have fun! (Courtesy of EmptySoul and joojy)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:42 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: If my boyfriend has sperm on his finger and he then fingers me, can I get pregnant? A: Yes. Sperm can swim, and they know where they're going. However, it wouldn't have as much force as if it were ejaculated into your vagina, and sperm dies outside the body within a short period of time. The sperm on his finger could be dead, but it is possible to get pregnant in this matter. It is reccomended that you use contraceptives in all sexual activities.
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:43 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: If I think I am pregnant, what are good places to get help and support? A: The LiveWire Resources Page has websites and phonelines for Teen Pregnancy and Rape help. LiveWire Teen Forums are always here to help you and answer questions as well. There is a specific forum dedicated to providing support regarding pregnancy related topics located HERE. Four of these resources are listed at the top of this FAQ.
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:44 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: My boyfriend and I want to have sex; should we use two condoms just to be safe? A: Absolutely not! This may seem safer, but if you use two condoms while having sex, the two comdoms will rub against one another and this actually makes it more likely to break!
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:44 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: How do I measure my penis? 1. Stimulate yourself using your method of choice until your cock is hard as a rock. Finding your penis circumference: 1. Stimulate yourself using your method of choice until your cock is hard as a rock. Calculate your size: Wondering just how you compare with others? The average erect penis length is about 6 inches, but this can vary depending on what data or medical studies you are consulting. (Source)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:45 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: Am I still a virgin if I: use tampons, almost had sex but he just rubbed me, have had my hymen broken, etc? A: While many people have different views on how you can lose your virginity, the general consensus it that you are still a virgin unless your vagina has been penetrated by a penis.
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:52 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: What are the common signs of early pregnancy? Here are 5 common signs of early pregnancy. You may experience all, some or none of these symptoms. A Missed Period. Missing your period is the most clear-cut sign of pregnancy. But it is not definitive, as stress or other factors may cause irregular periods. Frequent Trips to the Bathroom. Even before missing a period, most pregnant women report having to go to the bathroom more often. You may even have to get up during the night! This occurs after the embryo has implanted in the uterus and begins producing the pregnancy hormone called human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG). This hormone triggers frequent urination. Fatigue. Utter exhaustion is a very early sign of pregnancy. Fatigue is a result of high levels of the hormone progesterone. If you have any of the above symptoms, consider taking a pregnancy test as soon as possible. (Source)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:52 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: What is the average size of the male penis? Am I too big or too small?
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:53 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: Does penis size matter? Many myths exist about the relationship between penis size and other parts of a man's body including feet, nose and fingers. Jokes about penis size abound needlessly because, simply put, size has nothing to do with sexual satisfaction or manliness. Yet it's difficult to convince many men that this is so. The Facts About Penis Size: First, the vagina is a very elastic environment through which a baby can pass, yet it's one that easily retains a tampon. In other words, it snugly accommodates the entity it surrounds. Second, men and women give the vagina way more credit for sensitivity than is reasonable. The most sensitive part of the vagina is the part that is closest to the outside of a woman's body. Four inches will cover that. Third, about three-quarters of women don't reach orgasm by intercourse unless they have simultaneous clitoral stimulation -- no matter what the size of the inserting body part. (Source)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:53 pm on April 4, 2006 Reserved.
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:53 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: What is age of consent, and what is it for where I live? What does the age of consent mean? But what if our parents say it's okay? What is the age of consent? What is 'statutory rape'? To view the Age of Consent for where you live, click here. (Source)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:55 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: Can I get pregnant from precum? When a male gets aroused, and before he ejaculates, drops of fluid secreted by some of the glands are released at the top of the penis. This is called precum, and the amount varies between individuals and according to conditions, depending on general health, the level of arousal, and the time since the last ejaculation. Precum serves as a lubricant for intercourse, and it possibly facilitates fertilization by changing the vaginal pH, creating a more sperm-friendly environment. In general, a male can produce precum at any time from the point he becomes sexually aroused until the time he ejaculates. There is no standard interval of time between the initiation of precum and ejaculation. Only on occasion does precum contain some sperm. Although rare, pregnancies due to precum have been reported. Therefore, even though the chances are small, a woman can get pregnant if precum has entered her vagina.
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:55 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: What are blue balls? When a man becomes sexually excited, the arteries carrying blood to the genital area enlarge, while the veins carrying blood from the genital area are more constricted than in the non-aroused state. This uneven blood flow causes an increase in volume of blood trapped in the genitals and contributes to the penis becoming erect and the testicles becoming engorged with blood. During this process of vasocongestion the testicles increase in size 25-50 percent. If the male reaches orgasm and ejaculates, the arteries and veins return to their normal size, the volume of blood in the genitals is reduced and the penis and testicles return to their usual size rather quickly. If ejaculation does not occur there may be a lingering sensation of heaviness, aching, or discomfort in the testicles due to the continued vasocongestion. This unpleasant feeling has popularly been called blue balls, perhaps because of the bluish tint that appears when blood engorges the vessels in the testicles. (Source)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:56 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: What are the four bases, when it comes to sexual experiences? On Deck: Having plans for a date Now that we've got the basics, let's introduce some terms to better explain all the things that can happen now a days: Balk: Premature ejaculation While there are many versions to "The Bases", the four bases are pretty similar in most cases. Nowadays most people don't even refer to the bases, but if you do, use the above list and be creative! (Source)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:56 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: I need all the ways to pleasure a woman! Help! (Courtesy of tkster and britishguy)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:57 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: What are some popular hair removal techniques? Plucking: Laser Hair Removal: Depilatory (Nair): Bleaching: Shaving: Electrolysis: Trimming: (Source)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:59 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: How do I put on and use a condom? A condom is to be put on after the penis is erect and before the penis touches the vagina, anus, or mouth. It is important to be gentle with condoms and to keep them out of the sun (even when they are in their packaging). The majority of condoms are latex: never put lotions, baby oil, cold cream, vaseline on latex condoms as they weaken the condom. Instead, use a water-based lubricant like K-Y jelly or glycerin. Step 1 Step 2 Step 3 Instructional Video Following sex, the male should hold the condom at the rim and pull out slowly while the penis is still hard. Always use a fresh new condom if you decide to have sex again following the initial coitus. (Compiled by davjs)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 4:59 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: Am I ready for sex? Questions about yourself: Questions about your upbringing: Questions about your health: Good things to remember: - A local STD clinic will help you know what you can be tested for and when testing will be accurate. Remember, if you decide to have sex, you can decide not to have sex any more until you're ready. Something to Think About:
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 5:00 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: Where is the male G-Spot and how do I get to it? The prostate is a small gland, about the size and shape of a quail's egg. Nestled in the man's pubic bone and surrounded by the pelvic muscles, the prostate gland will respond to pressure applied through the rectum. Like any form of anal play, prostate stimulation isn't for everyone. Some people associate the anus with feelings of dirtiness or shame, while others just don't respond well to this form of stimulation. If you decide to try prostate manipulation, you need to respect your inhibitions -- and those of your partner -- by taking things slow.
Your response to prostate stimulation depends on your particular physiology. Some men experience crashing orgasms when they stimulate their prostate glands, while others simply enjoy a great deal of pleasure. Some men don't enjoy the sensation at all, while others could take it or leave it. If you are unsure about your feelings toward this type of sensation, try it! If you don't like it, you don't have to do it again. (Source)
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 5:00 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: What does GLBT stand for?
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 5:33 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: Can I get pregnant from swallowing sperm?
-- Posted by JudeLaurence at 5:33 pm on April 4, 2006 Q: How can I last longer in bed? This can also be practiced using your partner's hand, mouth or even by yourself. It may require some trial and error, as you may pass that point accidentally. Many people are not aware of it, but proper breathing can help develop ejaculatory control. This is because taking a few deep breaths can help you relax and calm the arousal and tension that leads to quick ejaculations. Practice deep, easy, relaxed breathing and relax your entire body. Communication is another key to long-lasting sex. Let your partner know when you are getting close and what you can and cannot handle. This will involve the use of actual words, since non-verbal cues are easily misunderstood. "Stop," "Hold it," "Start," and "More," are obvious choices and anything else that's short and clear, is acceptable. Other causes of premature ejaculation are anxiety, fear or discomfort with your partner. Premature ejaculation is less likely to occur if the couple knows each other well; feels comfortable with one another; both partners are consenting; in a comfortable, relaxed and private setting; and after contraception issues have been discussed. Many men can also last longer the second time around, so perhaps this can be incorporated into your love-making. If round one is short, please her with some extended foreplay using your mouth, or with an erotic massage during half-time until your soldier is ready for battle once again. Condoms reduce the amount of stimulation experienced during sex. Many men find that a condom makes them last longer because of the decreased stimulation. As you all know, condoms provide the best protection against STDs and pregnancy, so they have added benefits. The position of lovemaking may also affect a man's ability to last in bed. The 'missionary' position, with the man on top, is not the best position while attempting to control ejaculation. All men, however, are different and some men find it harder to hold themselves when their partner is in control. Experiment and vary the positions according to what allows you to control yourself better. Finally, strong, well developed pelvic muscles will allow you better control and make you more aware of what is happening in your nether regions. Pelvic floor muscles are the ones used to stop and start urination. Hold the muscles for three seconds, relax for three seconds, and repeat ten times. You can do this at anytime and in anyplace. Eventually, you should be able to work your way up to 100 ten-second contractions per day. Premature ejaculation can be easily countered with patience, effort and knowledge. Informing yourself is the first step, and once you know about the problem, you are halfway there. Overcoming the mental and physical aspects of this problems are also much easier if both partners are involved, aware of the situation and open to discuss it. |
