-- Posted by CocaCola at 12:13 pm on May 3, 2006 Hey guys and gals, have any of you lost a parent that you were close too? what did you do to cope with the loss? any tips your willing to share with everyone else? if you want you can share your stories, my mom passed away 5 years ago because of drug overdose, she didnt do it on purpose, she took her medication, fell asleep, woke up like 1/2 an hour later, thought she had slept longer, and took it again, the next time she went to sleep she didnt wake up, i was 12 when this hapened, im still struggling to heal over this whole thing and was wondering if n e one else is in  the same situation? -- Posted by StuddOfGeeks at 12:14 pm on May 3, 2006 im really sorry i cant say i know how you feel but if you are still struggling than cant you try talking to a counceller? that may help you come to terms with it, it being 5 years now -- Posted by dark fairy 13 at 12:16 pm on May 3, 2006 I haven't had a parent pass away but my grandma did. I was really close to her. She's basically the person who raised me my whole life. I guess I didn't really do a good job at coping with it. It still troubles me a lot. -- Posted by shadow anubis at 12:18 pm on May 3, 2006 oh my god, im so sorry, i lost my dad (see my latest topic) before i was born, so we werent close, but i would have so very much loved to meet him -- Posted by hotwind85 at 12:18 pm on May 3, 2006 my biological parents pratically gave me up when i was nine. i acutally got taken away from them. i probably wont' ever get to see them again, even though i still love them. -- Posted by CocaCola at 12:27 pm on May 3, 2006 im sorry to hear about your guys problems as well, its so not fair how life hands us crap, and we cant do anything about it, the thing about this that hurts me the most is that i never got a chance to say goodbye -- Posted by 1ofakind at 4:31 pm on May 3, 2006 Go see a therapist.   -- Posted by Satyricon at 8:40 pm on May 3, 2006 I lost both my parents, I can go on and live "normally" but it's never going to heal, it will always hurt, it's just matter of dealing with it -- Posted by Paradiise at 10:56 am on May 5, 2006 CocaCola, I\'m really really sorry. I can only imagine how much it would hurt to lose your mom, especially you being a female, and at that age, when you need your mother the most. I\'m truly sorry for your loss. As for coping with it, well there\'s always gonna be that feeling of loss in your heart, so don\'t feel like you have to forget it. But talking about it with someone might help to deal with it. I wouldn\'t necessarily recommend you talk to a friend, but more like someone older and wiser. Like maybe a therapist, if you can afford one. What about talking to your dad about it though? I\'m sure he could relate. (Edited by Paradiise at 1:57 pm on May 5, 2006) -- Posted by xcutioners at 11:12 pm on May 13, 2006 I'm sorry for all your losses... As for me, I haven't lost a parent,  but my grandfather passed away in 2003... On the other hand, I watch as time passes.. Alot of 'friends' I knew from last year to this year vanished. I mean I lost alot of friends just because of their stupid little mistakes and choices they make. -- Posted by ricerice at 8:46 pm on May 17, 2006 yesterday my friends friends mom died of drug overdose on purpose. Its really sad, she left a note and everything telling my friends friend  how beautiful she was and how far she can see her going in life. I have no idea what to do in these situations. Though I dont know my friends friend, its still feels very un comfortable that someone from the second degree can affect me. Maybe Im just too sensitive. -- Posted by MusicTrivium at 12:05 am on May 18, 2006 Just keep yourself active at work, school, exercising, or other activities, which is what I do everyday.   It was hard for me at first but as TIME goes by, the womb will certainly heal yet memories will always be your heart.  It should also keep your mind off from wanting to cry as well.  Then again, there's nothing wrong with crying.   Nothing at all. Thing is if you follow a daily active routine, you'll do just fine. It was hard for me when I lost my little sister who was only 9 yrs. old.  I was 14 at the time. I am now 24. (Edited by MusicTrivium at 12:08 am on May 18, 2006) (Edited by MusicTrivium at 12:09 am on May 18, 2006) -- Posted by ncm at 1:14 am on May 19, 2006 I know exactly what you feel. Please feel the pain as much as you can. Don't hide it. Cry as much as you want. Don't hold back any emotion. I know what I am talking. Please release all your pain. Talk to God, talk to your mom in heaven. tell her how much you miss her. Don't hide any feelings. Be open. The pain will heal over a period. But if you hide it andact brave that will give you no relief. -- Posted by le bea at 8:52 pm on June 5, 2006 I wasn't going to comment but I need to say this... No matter what the heck other's say you don't have to just get over a death when they decide... ten years from now I'll still miss my mom like hell and I'll still cry and I hate when people say that people can't mourn that long... you can still hurt once and awhile and still feel pain. It's been two years since I lost my mom to alcohol and I still think of her almost every day. I dunno parents are a part of you ... you don't have to just drop that part the second you lose them. oh and punch people when they tell you 'your mom jokes' ... lol