-- Posted by PerfectFairy at 11:52 am on Aug. 21, 2006 I cant stand her most of the time. She takes my stuff without asking, if I say no she will go take it anyway. She treats my mom like shit half the time. She takes the mick out of me and my boyfriend sayin im fat and ugly and that hes ugly n a geek etc. I dunno what to do about that. But then again I am slightly jealous, she has so much more friends and she has a social life, shes always out with mates doing stuff and having a good time. Im always in with my boyfriend, dont get me wrong I love stayin in with him, I just wish that when I was her age I was like that, but I justwasted it inside watching tv and not gettin on with people :( -- Posted by babegoth at 11:53 am on Aug. 21, 2006 how old is she???? -- Posted by mikengo0325 at 11:54 am on Aug. 21, 2006 try going out. meet other ppl -- Posted by ipiratewaffles at 11:55 am on Aug. 21, 2006 Kick her ass. -- Posted by rocket cutie at 11:56 am on Aug. 21, 2006 Quote: from mikengo0325 at 2:54 pm on Aug. 21, 2006 try going out. meet other ppl don't let her get away with it -- Posted by Spice at 11:57 am on Aug. 21, 2006 How about a lock on your bedroom? Or talking to your mum about that? when she treats your mum like shit, why don't you stand her ground - then your mother is more likely to stand yours with your belongings. BUT, be careful not to exclude her and include her in famil outtings. Why don't you, your mum, your sister, your boyfriend all go for a meal, or bowling or stuff? You may just need to bond more with your sister? And ask her politely if she would stop taking the mick - every time she does it. If you don't retaliate, she'll soon get bored. Hope thats of some help -- Posted by Kuzaki at 11:58 am on Aug. 21, 2006 There is always time to change your habits. It's all very well to say that you wish you had done it when you were her age, but you can still go out (with your boyfriend if he'll go out with you) and meet new friends and find new things to do. As for your little sister, she's just being a pain in the ass like little siblings always are. If you're finding it really unbearable, try talking to her about it. Tell her how much it's getting to you, remind her that you're her big sister and that you love her and care for her but she's got to do the same. Also, encourage your mum to be firmer with her (you said your sister treats her badly - I know that if I treated my parents badly there'd be hell to pay and quite rightly. You respect your parents). Suggest that unless she changes her attitude, your mum should ground your sister or something along those lines. -- Posted by PerfectFairy at 12:03 pm on Aug. 21, 2006 Shes 14 15 next month and im 17. every time we try do family stuff she just goes out with mates instead 'its not cool doing stuf with the family' Moms given up trying and given up groundin her when she does get bad but itdont work. We try to get on, im at college doing hairdressing and I do her hair for her and stuff but like she cares she thinks shes a princess, a spoilt brat. As for me, I just met a load of new people going to college last year but we all come from all over and they all live about half an hour away or so and so its hard to get to as I have not yet done my driving test. I guess when me and my boyfriend gets jobs (or he gets paid as hes just started one) then we will go out more as we will have money. She just really gets to me even when I try not to let it -- Posted by nikiki at 12:12 pm on Aug. 21, 2006 me & my sister used to be this way until we both got older and more mature and now we are best friends and we are so close. im 23 shes 18. but it was the opposite, i was always nice to her, id help her get ready to go out on dates and stuff but every time i left the house she would ransack my room and take everything i owned from make-up and clothes to shoes and even underwear! she was really disrespectful to my mom but my mom jus took it cuz shes gettin old and doesnt have the energy to fight anymore. but when i was younger she would have beat me senseless.  finally i just really kicked my sisters ass and bought a lock for my room. eventually i moved out and i started to really miss her alot. then she got pregnant and she really grew up and we can talk about babies and our hubbies and housework and such. i would say just stick in there and it will all turn out ok. its tough when ur both teenagers but once u hit ur 20s u will prolly get along much better. we still fight wit our big brother but hes just an asshole and he likes to mess wit us and hit us or call us names but its not as bad as when we were young. -- Posted by RUSO at 12:18 pm on Aug. 21, 2006 Teach her a lesson she'l never forget   -- Posted by canon at 12:53 pm on Aug. 21, 2006 I can only suggest that you try something different with her.  What's going on now isn't working....right? Something that always works for me when I am in a situation that is different and unexplanable I respond directly opposite of what they expect you to.  If they expect you to scream I would suggest you lower your voice.  If you are tempted to say something mean, say something nice and complimentary.  Predictable behavior sets you up for a strong response. I think it is somewhat natural for sisters to have a love/hate relationship.  You are the older one and you should consider being the role model.   I am sure you can figure it out. -- Posted by PerfectFairy at 3:51 pm on Aug. 21, 2006 I know everyone says in the future you'll get on which is probably true, but right now we aint. Thats very true about giving her what she doesnt expect. I shall have to try lol. I doubt id be a role model and she thinks im the boring one. But thanks. -- Posted by Misutsu at 11:45 pm on Aug. 21, 2006 Just ignore her and her comments, and don't feel jealous. I think being nice like you are right now is better than being social with a mean streak, like her.  You wouldn't want to be like that.  And chances are that she gives you a hard time because she's jealous of you, for how stable your life is. -- Posted by LexiBrokenHeartx at 8:01 am on Aug. 22, 2006 Face it! You too come from totally different planets. -- Posted by hellofacanon at 8:05 am on Aug. 22, 2006 ignorance is bliss....just ignore the little pest.... -- Posted by ayajean at 8:08 am on Aug. 22, 2006 It's just the age group, almost every kid goes through it if they have an older brother or sister, they want to grow up and be more 'cool' ignore her, she'll get over it, and you kind of need to stop being jealous, you can't go back and change the past but you can change it for the future...