-- Posted by Aaron14 at 12:19 am on Sep. 6, 2006 hey people, i use livewire when i have proplems with my life or how i feel. within tha last six months i havent been driven enough to come online and get help and most of my problems just ran their course and went away but lately ive really been upset over somthing so here it goes. About a month ago i asked out a friend of mine, shes extremely gorgous and honestly i never expected her to say yes but she did and weve been dating for a month this friday. Weve went out on a couple dates and weve gotten really close and hang out like everyday. The first time we tried to have sex it was all going good we fooles around for like a half hour and she said its your decision if we're gonna fuck or not, so me being the moderately attractive male said yes but as soon as the pants came off my bone went away. it was the most embarasing thing ever.she was a little disappointed but it had no major reprecussions so i chilled out in couple days and i was able to keep it up for hanjobs ect..then we tried again and i got soo nervous that it was gonna go away and it did,. this time we were really into it too. its really upsetting me because i know its psycological but i just cant Get into sex,shit will run through my head and ill get jealous of her other boyfrieds and think of other people shes fucked and it really bothers me because i know im better than that.anyways its really making me depressed and i would appreciate some help. P.S=ive only had sex like 5 times with somone that really wasnt attractive and then after we broke up she pulled the "i think im pregnant line" to try and get me back.i was soo freaked that i really diddnt interact with people for almost a month.soo yeah im REALLY sorry for the long post -- Posted by Spice at 12:23 am on Sep. 6, 2006 It's not that long First, many people will say it - but you need to stop worrying whether your penis will stay erect - this is why if often goes down. You just need to keep yourself in the moment.. don't think about how you may look if you lose it. And maybe you just aren't ready to have sex with her? -- Posted by Aaron14 at 12:31 am on Sep. 6, 2006 yeah i looked alot longer when i was typing it -- Posted by Spice at 12:33 am on Sep. 6, 2006 Quote: from Aaron14 at 8:31 am on Sep. 6, 2006 yeah i looked alot longer when i was typing it Always does. And what I said above is the only thing you can do, just not worry about it. Worrying always makes things worse. -- Posted by chavina at 12:44 am on Sep. 6, 2006 tis true! you should stop worrying if you can stay erect or not, thinking too hard dont make it any harder ;)