-- Posted by cmk at 12:42 am on Sep. 7, 2006 I am a freshman going to a University of California, and I am living off campus, in student apartments. I chose not to live in the dorms because I wanted my own space and stuff. Now it is ALL students who live in these apartments, but they are all upper classmen and already have their groups of friends. so I hardly met any of  them and the ones I did didn't care for freshman. I have no roomate, I live alone, so I get very lonley and it sucks cuz then I feel all down and stuff. Then the people right across from me hung out with me and I realized that over time (couple weeks of hanging out) they were just kind of being nice, when in realitty I am still an outsider to them. It really sucks. Also, all the girls I have met already have boyfriends and the only girls left I have no desire to meet, and no my expectations aren't to high. Finally, I am taking 12 instead of 16 units and I am still finding it difficult, and I graduated High School with a 4.3 cummulative. So my workload is a lot and hard, my so called only group of friends are fake, I am lonely, and right now at the moment I am very high but it helped me to realize all this. Thanks for listening, HELP! -- Posted by Romani 16 at 12:44 am on Sep. 7, 2006 I had the same problem..whatever you do..dont get drunk..I only lasted a week in my college..got drunk on easter and tried to kill my roomate who was onyl acting liek my friend becasue we had to live together -- Posted by Kaylane at 12:46 am on Sep. 7, 2006 You shouldn't care so much about those things. When you find friends, you'll find friends. And, yes, apparently you're expectations are high when it comes to girls. By the way, do you go to USC? -- Posted by JennyColada at 12:47 am on Sep. 7, 2006 I'd say at least half of all incomming freshman hate college for the first month at least. It happens, it's a big change, and the fact that you willingly decided to not expand your social life like probably 50 of of the other freshman...well, that just makes it harder (if you can't tell, I'm a HUGE advocate of living in the dorms, but that's another story). Keep in mind: Almost every freshman is in the same boat as you are. Nearly no one comes to school already having friends. If you have any Welcome Week activities, go to all of them, go to all the hall/apartment programs, it's a great way to meet people, after all: that's what they're there for! Maybe try talking to your RA even, and asking him/her what programs are good to get involved in. What about your workload are you finding difficult? College is different from high school, and you cannot treat it the same. The work and work load are different, and teachers expect different things from you. If you feel like you are going to struggle then get help with your work now rather than later (as by the time you realize "I'm failing", it's already too late). -- Posted by JennyColada at 12:47 am on Sep. 7, 2006 Quote: from Kaylane at 12:46 am on Sep. 7, 2006 By the way, do you go to USC? USC isn't a UC, but I am curious what college you go to all the same. -- Posted by Jamesycarragher at 12:53 am on Sep. 7, 2006 what is a uc? In Ireland we have FE Colleges, Further Education... -- Posted by Kaylane at 12:55 am on Sep. 7, 2006 USC stands for University of Southern California, so what do you mean? And, i'm not in collage at the moment... -- Posted by JennyColada at 12:55 am on Sep. 7, 2006 UC = University of California. It's a series of colleges (or Universities as you'd say) that includes UCLA (University of California at Los Angeles), UCSD (University of California at San Diego), etc. -- Posted by JennyColada at 12:55 am on Sep. 7, 2006 Quote: from Kaylane at 12:55 am on Sep. 7, 2006 USC stands for University of Southern California, so what do you mean?   And, i'm not in collage at the moment... The University of Southern California is not in the UC system, it is a different university. UCs include: UCR, UCSD, UCLA, UCSB, UCSF, UCSC, and probably others that I've forgotten. -- Posted by Kaylane at 1:00 am on Sep. 7, 2006 Quote: from JennyColada at 12:55 am on Sep. 7, 2006 Quote: from Kaylane at 12:55 am on Sep. 7, 2006 USC stands for University of Southern California, so what do you mean?   And, i'm not in collage at the moment... The University of Southern California is not in the UC system, it is a different university. UCs include: UCR, UCSD, UCLA, UCSB, UCSF, UCSC, and probably others that I've forgotten. Oh, how interseting. So, what would USC be under if anything? -- Posted by JennyColada at 1:01 am on Sep. 7, 2006 USC is just a private university I believe. Most schools don't really have systems like the UC system does. I don't really know why we're (meaning California) so special, but it's nice, because it's really easy (well, easier) to transfer between the UC colleges (as they tend to work together and sometimes even have special programs with one another). -- Posted by Kaylane at 1:09 am on Sep. 7, 2006 Quote: from JennyColada at 1:01 am on Sep. 7, 2006 USC is just a private university I believe. Most schools don't really have systems like the UC system does. I don't really know why we're (meaning California) so special, but it's nice, because it's really easy (well, easier) to transfer between the UC colleges (as they tend to work together and sometimes even have special programs with one another). Ok, so USC doesn't have that system were you can transfer to one college to another? Because, I here in some cases, you can't transfer from one college to another unless the college is...um...I forgot the name. It's like, Regionally transferable...or something with big words. Lol! Do you know what i'm talking about? -- Posted by Xjord101290X at 1:21 am on Sep. 7, 2006 i wish we had colleges like that near me, lol, but coz i don't have any i think that sounds pretty cool... to be honest -- Posted by JennyColada at 7:02 am on Sep. 7, 2006 No, you can transfer to and from USC, but it's easier to transfer between UCs as they all share a same bond (like a tree, that has different branches, it's eaier to get to one branch from another rather than jumping to a new tree). -- Posted by bluejaybabe at 11:47 am on Sep. 7, 2006 Texas has that as well.  For the University of Texas:(Austin is the main one) but  we have one in San Antonio, El Paso, and I believe in other cities as well I just can't think of them at the moment.  But they do have a program that you can get into to make it easier to get accepted into UT, granted the fact you have a certain gpa and other things as well.   -- Posted by JennyColada at 12:12 pm on Sep. 7, 2006 ^^^ That's cool! I wonder how many other states have programs like this. -- Posted by TigerV05 at 12:57 pm on Sep. 7, 2006 you just started, how do you know you won't like it later? -- Posted by Kaylane at 6:10 pm on Sep. 7, 2006 Quote: from JennyColada at 7:02 am on Sep. 7, 2006 No, you can transfer to and from USC, but it's easier to transfer between UCs as they all share a same bond (like a tree, that has different branches, it's eaier to get to one branch from another rather than jumping to a new tree). Ooo! I remember now. What I was talking about was colleges being Regionally accredited! Yeah, that's what the lady said. Anywho, so many similes! -- Posted by cmk at 2:00 am on Sep. 8, 2006 I solved it.... Eat, Sleep Class, Homework/Studying, Counter Strike. -- Posted by JennyColada at 10:12 am on Sep. 8, 2006 Ah, the wonderful Counter Strike. I once wrote an essay for a class explaining what my dorm hall was like, and I was sure to put in the incessent sound of bombs and shooting.