-- Posted by crimsontide05 at 7:34 am on Sep. 24, 2006 I have started my second year at college thinking i was going to have better luck than last year at meeting new people and possibly even get a gf there. Well here it is nothing has changed, still as friendless as i was when i got there the first day and no gf yet, i dont even see any signs of things getting better in the enar future and it sucks. Anyone else going through something like this? Its just completely boring and depressing being there alone constantly. -- Posted by bananasplits at 7:45 am on Sep. 24, 2006 In your situation you'd have to make a great effort to get noticed, and to start talking to people. College is really hard to deal with sometimes. If you want to say hi to someone jsut do it, dont think twice and smile, people will feel drawn to a warm smile. Also help people, if you sit next to someone in class say hi to them ask them about themselves. These things are sure to help you on your way. -- Posted by crimsontide05 at 7:47 am on Sep. 24, 2006 I do try these things none of it works. It all comes down to popularity and money. If you dont have it these days your going to be one lonely soul for a long long time. -- Posted by SimplisticComplexity at 9:20 am on Sep. 24, 2006 That's not true, everybody at college faces that same problem at some point, most of the time at the beginning.  Nobody cares how much money you have (many students are on financial aid, remember), and in college, there is no such thing as popularity.  Popularity is lame anyway.  What you want to do is find a group of people who share your interests and whom you can be yourself around.  You meet many many new people at college, and everybody's really friendly and mature, so just talk to the people in your classes, or join some club or sport or something.  When you talk to them, make an effort to really get to know them and ask them to hang out with you more often and do something fun outside of class.  Ask them to see a movie with you or go to one of the events at your college.  There's plenty of things you can do with people. College is what you make of it.  If you think you're never going to make friends, then you won't.  You can't just sit there waiting for people to come to you and hoping that a girlfriend will just magically fall out of the sky.  You have to get out there and do something to get what you want.  I encourage you to join something, anything that you are interested in,  and you are gauranteed to find new friends who share your interests. -- Posted by crimsontide05 at 9:33 am on Sep. 24, 2006 I have tried talking to people on several occasions it just does not work. I guess for some people its easier for them than others. I just dont really know what to do, if i fail every time i try whats the point of keeping on trying just to fail once again? -- Posted by LilGuardchic86 at 6:58 pm on Sep. 24, 2006 have you tried getting involved in your school with clubs and things of that matter. -- Posted by crimsontide05 at 8:49 pm on Sep. 24, 2006 Yeah I am a part of BCM Baptist Campus Ministries but still get the same result. -- Posted by somethingvague at 7:29 am on Sep. 29, 2006 im in the same situation cept im in my first year. im really lonely n homesick :[ -- Posted by n4n6906 at 10:00 am on Sep. 30, 2006 I understand what you are going through because I am going through it now...I basically have been living in the same city for my whole life and my friends have been with me forever and since the start of college all of them left because of school and I was kinda forced to go to the university that is close to home so I live at home. And it really sucks when people just totally ignore you. And just a fyi I try and smile at anyone that looks in my direction just because its polite. And sometimes people would just look away like wtf...and its really hard to meet people. I know that I should join something but its not that easy especially if you don't live on campu while everyone else are with people from school basically 24/7...just talk to people that are waiting for class to start like ask about future quizzes or tests and stuff like that...and strike up some convo with someone that sits next to you...maybe you might find some common interest between you two...I hope that might find someone to befriend with and maybe find a gf...GOOD LUCK!!! -- Posted by MusicTrivium at 12:56 pm on Oct. 1, 2006 Are you an active person?  Outgoing?  You should go out and party once in awhile. Also, you should join a club or something.  That'll keep you less anti-social and most likely a chain of friends should develop within less than a month.   -- Posted by rahulnirmal2000 at 2:52 pm on Oct. 2, 2006 I'm also in my 2nd year and haven't made a single friend. But I also am very shy, don't talk to people, don't join clubs so its all my fault, but still. I'm so inferior, nobody would want to be my friend anyways.       -- Posted by oatmealcs at 11:45 am on Oct. 12, 2006 Quote: from rahulnirmal2000 at 2:52 pm on Oct. 2, 2006 I'm also in my 2nd year and haven't made a single friend. But I also am very shy, don't talk to people, don't join clubs so its all my fault, but still. I'm so inferior, nobody would want to be my friend anyways.       The first thing you have to do is build up your self confidence. If you don't like yourself then why should anyone like you? Try positive thinking, talking to someone you trust, doing something for yourself like taking up a hobby. Once you start to like yourself and find out what you like you can find groups or clubs to get involved in and meet people who share the same interests. -- Posted by pwnt at 8:24 am on Oct. 13, 2006 Im on one of the most boring ass campuses in america. Join a club and make friends. I play college hockey here, so thats 17 other guys i can go find parties with lol, from there you can meet more and more people. just join a club. -- Posted by Grey Angel at 8:43 am on Oct. 13, 2006 People in your class maybe, or hall and yea maybe join another club aswell, maybe a more outgoing and have some fun with them. Club reps and peeps, are the nicest people cos they want you to join their club. -- Posted by unholy angel at 8:05 pm on Oct. 14, 2006 I know how u feel, I've just started my first year at college, and Im living in Rez, and Im so lonely I just feel like crying.. U'd think that living in Rez I would meet new pple, but I dont.. I still have hope that it will get better.. atleast I think I still have hope.. -- Posted by whitelaser at 8:11 am on Oct. 17, 2006 Awesome Article: how to get a social life www.howtobecooler.com/sociallife -- Posted by Flow Morphia Slow at 5:12 pm on Oct. 17, 2006 It's completely up to you how college goes... if you're miserable and lonely, chances are, you haven't suffered enough to want to change things, you're probably comfortable where you are but you're scared to make things better? Here's my story: http://www.golivewire.com/forums/peer-380910-support-0.html#postNumber1 -- Posted by vballgirl8 2003 at 1:23 pm on Oct. 19, 2006 yeah I know the of being alone, I was like that for a long time in hs and college got a little better. Maybe looking at doing things at other colleges/universities meeting people through outside college life. Maybe its that one friend you find, sometimes that all it matters. Sometimes that friend will introduce you to  their friends, and then you met the friends friends. Thats what happened to me, and I have more friends then I ever did in hs. Just wait and stick it out, it will come when you least expect it, everything now a days happends when I dont think it will.