-- Posted by eternaloptimist at 5:13 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 let's say you meet someone who is ridiculously good-looking. however, this person is also a total overachiever. they have accomplished a lot and show no signs of stopping. they are impressive to have as a date, and you know guys/girls will both be jealous. what are the cons of dating such a person? -- Posted by JennyColada at 5:14 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 I'm pretty sure it could be stressful. Having to be with someone whom is never good enough, that could put some strain on you or the relationship. I mean, it's nice to have goals, but sometimes you need to know what is reasonable. -- Posted by cammie at 5:14 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 theyre going to focus more on other things than you. ive been in this situation. you come second best to everything!! school, etc. -- Posted by KeiraOasis at 5:14 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 That his career is more important than you. He could turn out to be EXTREMELY rich He could get bored of you and coincidentily dump you. Well you did ask... -- Posted by samzkuul at 5:15 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 They might try to make you perfect in ways you don't want to be. They might put school/work before spending time with you. -- Posted by Nappylicious at 5:15 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 after a while theyll see you as imperfect and try to change you in all aspects of your life -- Posted by fynessChocolate at 5:17 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 well that sounds like someone..well it all depends on how that person takes it..cause i am one as well..not going to lie...but i don't think i put my school before my bf...i mean i blance it off..but i still fight for what i want.. -- Posted by OpethGirl69 at 5:18 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 I'm dating a 15-year-old college student. I know the situation. It can be stressful, especially when they are in alot of programs and such. He gets stressed out alot, but it's nice to be able to comfort him. -- Posted by boltinpadfoot at 5:19 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 they might not have time for you. -- Posted by OpethGirl69 at 5:21 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 Quote: from boltinpadfoot at 7:19 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 they might not have time for you. They make time for you if they really like you. -- Posted by wOlF at 5:22 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 I am confident enough in myself to be able to go out with a person like this, however if they are expecting my to get straight A's join, NHS, and other prestigious things, then no I would not date someone like that.  I want them to base their beliefs on my on what I am, not what they can shape me into. One time, this girl I was interested in wanted to actually see my progress report before she went out with me!  It wasn't that bad, like A's and B's, but I mean come on!  I don't want a person that would baby me all the time, (a little, I admit, is kind-of cute, I don't want to be the mature leader, if you will, of the relationship) I want someone who would like me for me. If they are an over-achiever, then have at it.  I am confident in myself enough to date one. -- Posted by SB at 5:22 pm on Oct. 30, 2006 There could be a lot of pressure on your part to be as successful as they, and also they may be very involved in their work, with not much time for the relationship.