-- Posted by LinZ at 12:40 am on Nov. 2, 2006 Does anyone have any advice about this? I swear, I'm so damn obsessed with my grades that, if I fuck something up in the least, I pretty much have a breakdown and get depressed and suicidal and all that good stuff. For example, I had to turn in a project today, but had absolutely no idea I needed to turn in a paper along with it. It's not that I forgot, but that I genuinely did not hear my instructor say it, even though other students claimed it was written on the board. I don't know how I missed it, but I did. I did well on the construction part of the project (got an A), but not knowing about that paper still pisses me off and I know it probably damaged my grade a lot. My instructor pretty much said I would have to get A's on all the rest of the assignments to 'do okay'. I'm very picky about my grades, and I always strive to do better than just 'okay' - I consider anything below a B to be a lousy grade. I don't want to think so much about this incident from today, but I can't help it. I want to do well and I hate myself to no end when I screw something up like this. My friend happened to come over while I was in the middle of breaking down and he had to talk me out of leaping off my balcony...that's how damn upset I was over an assignment. See how obsessive I am? Is there any way I can possibly learn to relax about homework? I don't want to relax so much that I don't care about anything, but I hate feeling like I want to kill myself over my homework. In any case, I am considering dropping the class and taking it later with a different instructor if I get anything lower than a C - I'm so worried about my GPA being too low that I refuse to do horribly if I don't have to. -- Posted by missy777 at 12:41 am on Nov. 2, 2006 Ok u need 2 chill..u can always re-take, if ure so nervous, u'd definatley do bad -- Posted by VirtusInternus at 12:42 am on Nov. 2, 2006 B vitamins, meditation, spa/sauna, multivitamins -- Posted by Tarnished at 12:58 am on Nov. 2, 2006 You could buy some rescue remedy. It's really awesome. Natural thing you can take to keep your nerves down. Or you could just try taking a break every now and then to relax. Keep a healthy diet. It helps you to not feel so dead at times, and helps you to keep going physically, which in turn can help you to stay strong emotionally. -- Posted by slimshady at 1:02 am on Nov. 2, 2006 this is wha ti do, after a streful work or school, smoke weed, no joke, calms me down -- Posted by Tarnished at 1:11 am on Nov. 2, 2006 Quote: from slimshady at 1:02 am on Nov. 2, 2006 this is wha ti do, after a streful work or school, smoke weed, no joke, calms me down Not the best thing, always. I don't think. Marijuana can make people unmotivated and can impair the ability to learn and consentrate. Possibly not the best thing for someone who is trying to focus on their studies. -- Posted by LinZ at 7:50 am on Nov. 2, 2006 I told my friend I considered getting into drugs or alcohol to try and make myself feel better, but he advised against it because he was into weed when he was younger and kind of regrets it. I'm also considering simply taking a lot of NyQuil to try and sleep my problems off. Also, I can't afford to go to a spa or a sauna, and I do not like sports. And I'm running low on cash in general, so I probably won't be buying healthy wonderful food (like I ever have). But thanks for your advice, everyone. -- Posted by tumbleweedfugue at 6:54 pm on Nov. 3, 2006 You need to do the same thing I need to do:  lighten up.   As for the one class you spoke about, look into either withdrawing, dropping, or the pass/fail option.  Talk to your instructor and academic advisors about your options.   In regards to relaxing--getting into drugs, alcohol, smoking, even nyquil--those are all not the greatest of ideas.  Start going for long walks once a day, outside if weather allows.  Go alone, have that be your time to think and be you.  Eat as healthily as possible, and take time to hang out with your friends and enjoy life.   Today I was feeling stressed about my grades, so I walked to a playground and swang on the swings and felt like i was five again.  It was excellent.  Try it.   Do little things [non self-destructive] that make you happy and improve your mood.  Good luck!