-- Posted by kahokulani8 at 10:09 am on Dec. 27, 2006 I cannot tell you the last time I went through the day and had a complete happy day. My life has completely changed this last year. I am only 20 years old so I should not be feeling like this. For starters both of my parents went to prison this last year so I went from a college student focusing on school and I also played soccer, to getting a full time job and going to school full time. I sleep maybe 4 and half hours a night. I also have a boyfriend and he is the one that keeps me sane and I have been seeing him for almost two years. But he goes to school in another city so I go and see him every weekend and it stresses me out that I can't really see him when I want. It gets hard as far as money to go and see him, but I am not happy when I don't see him. Also I have lost almost all of my friends because i don't have anytime for them between going to school, work, and going out of town to see my boyfriend. I was hanging in there and trying to stay positive and now I found out that my boyfriend cheated on me soon after we started dating. Now I am questioning everything because he is the on I confide in. I just don't know what to do. I don't know if I should stay with him or not and also what to do about my other problems. Any suggestions? -- Posted by soccerdude14 at 10:13 am on Dec. 27, 2006 wow..thats hard....i think you should just get a really good friend on campass and talk to her/him -- Posted by 1hotmama at 10:13 am on Dec. 27, 2006 damn that sucks. just the bf problems are bad enough, not to mention all the other stuff. If he cheated on you in the begining, it probably didnt mean anything. He probably didnt know if you would be serious, or if you would stay faithful, or if you were nothing more than a 1 weeek fling. But after u did get serious he was probvably scared to tell you, and risk losing you, i thnk you could forgive him for that. If u can find it in ur heart to forgive him, than you should stay together. But if you are always gonna doubt him, than you should break up now. cuz you dont want to go on another 2 years being miserable thinking about his one mistake he made. Also why doesnt he ever come and see you?? Obviously your money situation is tight, so he shuold come one weekend and you should go the next. The full responsibility shouldnt lie in you. Good luck tho i dont really know what else to say, -- Posted by Tanisha at 10:23 am on Dec. 27, 2006 I really agree with 1hotmama follow her advice. -- Posted by kingofclubs at 10:43 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 It's rough, but just imagine how much better life will be when you're done. If you can forgive your bf, stay with him; if not, don't. -- Posted by MakeUpMySmile at 8:25 am on Dec. 29, 2006 Cheating in the beginning of the relationship isn't a big issue because you are deciding how you truly feel about the person and getting to know each other. The fact that he has stayed with you throughout this time and has had such an impact in your life shows that his feelings fro you are sincere. Instead of focusing on the negative side of your relationship (how little you see each other) emphasize more on the joy that you two are still together. Having a long-distance relationship in college is difficult and because you both have stuck by each other it shows that you genuinely care about one another. If the distance bothers you this much why don't you transfer to his college or a school near that town/city? -- Posted by kahokulani8 at 9:33 am on Dec. 29, 2006 The reason I don't move there is because I have a really good job here at a hospital and also his school does not offer my major. He plays baseball there so that is why he can hardly come home. He comes home maybe once a month, but as soon as spring hits he cannot come home at all. He is planning on going to school here this next year because the CSU here just picked up a baseball team. I guess time will tell. I really think I can fogive him, now I am just trying to forget. And for both of our sakes, I hope I can forget. -- Posted by MsCaesi at 10:01 pm on Jan. 9, 2007 Sounds to me like you truly love your boyfriend. If I was in your scenario--I would move to be with my boyfriend if it was okay with him. Your parents arent currenlty around and if your friends are distant than you dont have anything to really stay for. You can always transfer schools.