-- Posted by razuel at 6:44 am on Jan. 13, 2007 I've been fat all my life until recently.  now i'm kind of curious as to where I stand in the eyes of women. i've been shy and strayed away from girls all my life, now I'm in new waters and a little lost. -- Posted by live laugh love at 6:46 am on Jan. 13, 2007 lol, uhh go out somewhere, crowded. like a mall or amusement park. & hit on someone & see what their reaction is. [i would say wait till someone hits on you, but you're not a girl.. lol] -- Posted by theAnomie at 6:47 am on Jan. 13, 2007 Ha I was a fat bastard until about 3 years ago. Suddenly I had a growth spurt and developed cheek bones, I get called handsome every now and again. -- Posted by SexyBitch4U at 6:47 am on Jan. 13, 2007 ugly is a strong word... but jus go out and flirt with girls ask some out... u seem pretty kool -- Posted by razuel at 6:50 am on Jan. 13, 2007 well for someone who's been fat and self concious all their life, it's not that easy to go out and hit on women -- Posted by Blackadder at 6:51 am on Jan. 13, 2007 I dont know -- are stretch marks a turn on? -- Posted by psychedelic kitten at 6:51 am on Jan. 13, 2007 Go somewhere where no-one knows you and see what the reaction is. Congratulations on getting healthy too! -- Posted by razuel at 6:53 am on Jan. 13, 2007 haha, how often do people walk around shirtless to show their stretchmarks? how about a rating site? -- Posted by MissCherry at 6:53 am on Jan. 13, 2007 Hehe...i was realy ugly when i was a kid but my looks developed and they're still developing :) -- Posted by theAnomie at 6:55 am on Jan. 13, 2007 Quote: from razuel at 2:50 pm on Jan. 13, 2007 well for someone who's been fat and self concious all their life, it's not that easy to go out and hit on women That's true, brother. You have to begin thinking positively about yourself, take any compliments you get and ignore anything else. It'll take a while, but slowly your self-confidence should improve. A change of scenery may also be nice, I dunno if you're at the age where you'll be changing schools any time soon but the new people will only see you as you are now, so you can be whatever you want. -- Posted by deadteddiebear77 at 6:57 am on Jan. 13, 2007 yeah. im on my way of leaving this big shell and comeing out different. i dont knwo what i will look like. but yeah. ive been chubby since the 7th grade. and my gf still loves me. -- Posted by razuel at 7:01 am on Jan. 13, 2007 how about i post a picture and the females rate me 1-10? -- Posted by Young Black Male at 7:02 am on Jan. 13, 2007 Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Heck, even brat pit would be considered ugly in the eyes of some women......... As for the original poster. Just be yourself kid. Sure your self esteem may be low or whatever, but you should remember that your looks won't make a difference to ppl that matter. And if a girl is gonna judge you promarily based on your looks, then shes not worth your time of day. Just remember that not everybody will like you kid,,,in fact, most people will hate you for being you. Whether youre goodlookin or ugly, the haters will always be there... So forget the haters and focus on those that are willing to surpass your outer appearance ,to see the inner you. peace -- Posted by omfg frahd chikn at 7:54 am on Jan. 13, 2007 if you look in a mirror and it breaks. -- Posted by goodman at 3:37 am on Jan. 22, 2007 Ugliness is more a state of mind.