-- Posted by Anonymous at 3:22 pm on Feb. 3, 2007 Last night, talking to my roommate, I finally admitted that I have feelings for him that are somewhat more than friendly. Perhaps a lot more than friendly. And found out those feelings are mutual. And basically, I admitted that given the chance, I would definately screw him. AAND again, I found out those feelings are mutual. Here's the catch:  I'm taken. I've been dating the guy I'm with for over a year now. Given I really don't see the relationship working out because he's needy, and because things have happened like...well, for one, he asked me to marry him then a few months later took it back. I've got trust issues, but I'm pretty sure that would cool things off for most people. But I still love him [my boyfriend] for some reason..sometimes I really don't know why. Regardless. I share a room with him and even if I do wonder why I don't break up with him, I still love him and want to be with him for now. I told my roommate that I realized on a few occasions that if he were to try anything, I would not find it objectionable. At all. So he asked if that was an invitation. Which I wasn't really expecting, but I said yes. Reluctantly, he told me that he couldn't do anything with me because he'd feel too bad because I was taken. And I think also because my boyfriend also lives in the same apartment. Then later, he realized that was kind of hypocritical in regards to his latest philosophy on things and I think took it back. But the boyfriend was home at said time so I didn't really ask any more details. All of this is almot a mild issue for me. So long as my boyfriend doesn't find out, I really don't care. Even if I think I am quite possibly going straight to Hell when I die. Problem comes from this:  Last night after we picked my boyfriend up from work, my roommate half jokingly, I think (?), suggested a threesome. Possibly just to gauge my boyfriend's reaction. And my boyfriend laughed it off, but he was really concerned about it. So this morning, or my time equivalent thereof, we ended up waking up to 2+ hours of arguing, yelling, crying, and me trying to convince him that it's nothing to worry about. Which, of course, is a lie. Christian or not, I really think I'm going straight to Hell. -- Posted by maceyface at 3:26 pm on Feb. 3, 2007 Shit happens, it's not your fault, you're not a terrible person. You have feelings, and even if they go against your morals, it's not like you can help having them. Even if you can. Whatever. This is life. You know... even if you do love your boyfriend, you said earlier that you don't see it working out because he's needy and such. That kind of thing is fine, but when it starts getting in your way and causing problems like this, how worth it is it to hold on? You could subject yourself to 5 more years with this guy, and what good will it do you? If you truly don't see it working out in the long run, you should probably abandon it. -- Posted by Anonymous at 3:32 pm on Feb. 3, 2007 Quote: from maceyface at 6:26 pm on Feb. 3, 2007 Shit happens, it's not your fault, you're not a terrible person. You have feelings, and even if they go against your morals, it's not like you can help having them. Even if you can. Whatever. This is life. You know... even if you do love your boyfriend, you said earlier that you don't see it working out because he's needy and such. That kind of thing is fine, but when it starts getting in your way and causing problems like this, how worth it is it to hold on? You could subject yourself to 5 more years with this guy, and what good will it do you? If you truly don't see it working out in the long run, you should probably abandon it. Thank you....really. :-) That really does help. -- Posted by Dallybop at 3:32 pm on Feb. 3, 2007 Huh, your a christian and your sharing a room with your bf? and talking about hooking up with your roomate?? see, that shit right there is EXACTLY why i will not set foot inside a church. fucking hypocrites and liars. -- Posted by maceyface at 3:33 pm on Feb. 3, 2007 Quote: from Anonymous at 3:32 pm on Feb. 3, 2007 Quote: from maceyface at 6:26 pm on Feb. 3, 2007 Shit happens, it's not your fault, you're not a terrible person. You have feelings, and even if they go against your morals, it's not like you can help having them. Even if you can. Whatever. This is life.    You know... even if you do love your boyfriend, you said earlier that you don't see it working out because he's needy and such. That kind of thing is fine, but when it starts getting in your way and causing problems like this, how worth it is it to hold on? You could subject yourself to 5 more years with this guy, and what good will it do you? If you truly don't see it working out in the long run, you should probably abandon it. Thank you....really. :-) That really does help. Hey, no problem, I've actually been in a similar place... or... kind of am. If you need anyone to talk to, you can PM me. I won't tell anyone who you are :P -- Posted by Anonymous at 4:06 pm on Feb. 3, 2007 Quote: from Dallybop at 6:32 pm on Feb. 3, 2007 Huh, your a christian and your sharing a room with your bf? and talking about hooking up with your roomate??     see, that shit right there is EXACTLY why i will not set foot inside a church. fucking hypocrites and liars. This is kind of off topic, but I'll humor you an explanation. 1) I don't go to church. 2) I claim to be Christian for lack of a religion that completely encompasses my beliefs.   Because I follow the Christian faith for the most part does not mean I consider myself a good Christian. I didn't claim that. If I had, you could call me a hypocrite. I also said I think I'm going to Hell for not doing what I should. You should probably get your shit straight before you start flinging insults.