-- Posted by Ramellan at 9:32 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 over the past month my best friend, we will call her Rikara, has been dating my ex best friend, who we will call ripper. lately Rikara has been sad because despite her bf living 20 miles away, she wants to see him all the time. he is 18 and he doesnt have a car, well not one that works at the moment. she is 15, and they had sex. they know they cant see eachother, but after Ripper got his latest car, on his time off all he has been doing is ignoring her for his car. she had been threatening to jump off the bridge by her house since i met her, and today i finally couldnt stand her shit anymore and told her if she is gonna do it, make it today. 10 minutes ago my friend instant messaged me telling me that she had been gone for over an hour, her mom thinking she was out walking. he came back saying that he had fond her UNDER the bridge with a box cutting blade and cuts all over. she had been crying and saying how she wanted to get away... should i feel bad for her or should i just deal with it cause it was another one of her stupid decisions? -- Posted by TigerV05 at 9:33 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 what a stupid kid. tell her to go to therapy. -- Posted by MR UNKNOWN at 9:34 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 You sorta told her to do it (if I read correctly) so I would feel bad. Tell her sorry and shit and you didn't mean it. -- Posted by rawrr at 9:35 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 its her decision, maybe you shoudl try to help her though the hard times, its even worse when you lose someone who is close to you... i came home from school to find my uncle who was trying to kill himself by overdosing on medication, it was horrible, but not near as close as the day i found out he did end up taking his life, i pray for him when he comes to mind and just wish i could have tried harder to keep him here because i miss him more than ever. -- Posted by Ramellan at 9:35 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 Quote: from mr unknown at 9:34 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 You sorta told her to do it (if I read correctly) so I would feel bad. Tell her sorry and shit and you didn't mean it. but i dont feel bad and im not sorry, not after she got me arrested. -- Posted by MR UNKNOWN at 9:38 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 Quote: from Ramellan at 12:35 am on Feb. 15, 2007 Quote: from mr unknown at 9:34 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 You sorta told her to do it (if I read correctly) so I would feel bad. Tell her sorry and shit and you didn't mean it. but i dont feel bad and im not sorry, not after she got me arrested. I thought she was your best friend... -- Posted by hithere at 9:38 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 Well you should first of all decide where you stand. Either be her friend, and do all you can to help her through it, or just leave her alone and don't pretend like you're her friend. You can't just be there in the middle. She probably trusts you, and think how she feels now that you told her to get it over with. Her decisions may be stupid, but I don't think you should treat her such. And feeling bad for her or dealing with it don't really sound like the best options either. If you've seriously been trying to help her through the problems she has, and you're just sick of her and her problems, then make a decision and don't be her friend anymore, if you want. But of course, I say do whatever you can to make her stop trying to hurt herself. -- Posted by never mind at 9:38 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 well she coudn't wanna go THAT badly... sorry but true... get her some help.. don't feel bad coz some ppl are just craving attention... she is fine so yer. -- Posted by Ramellan at 9:40 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 oh, and she cant go to therapy because her family is so fucked up that when she got home they didnt do anything about the cuts... -- Posted by Lichelle at 10:06 pm on Feb. 14, 2007 I hate when people do that - Over a guy.Ugh. Anyways, don't feel bad, it was her stupid decision.