-- Posted by FarscapeForever at 10:45 am on Feb. 25, 2007 I went through some highly emotionally abusive relationships.  I'm at a point in my life where I'm beginning to see the after effects.  I prefer to be alone most times now because I think it will prevent me from getting really hurt again.  I'm the type of person that puts others before himself and I do everything for the people I love.  The problem is that not all of those people treated me with the respect I gave them.  It troubles me.  I'm finally at a place where I'm solely focusing on me to the point where I don't want to go out of my way for anyone but myself.  Is this a bad thing?  Has anyone ever felt this way?  I would only hope that I'm on the road to recovery.  I just can't take the hurt anymore.   -- Posted by Swindelhandel at 10:46 am on Feb. 25, 2007 For one [more poor boy], there's someone For he for she For one [more poor boy], there's someone For him, for me Your eyes resemble mine, see as no others can Here inherit my kingdom , speak other people's plan I'll be here for my baby, for my baby I'll be near So many things I need to tell you, things you need to hear So this is the aftermath Your eyes resemble mine, you see as no others can Here inherit my kingdom, speak other people's plan I'll be here for my baby, for my baby I'll be near So many things I need to tell you For one [more poor boy], there's someone For he, for she For one [more poor boy], there's someone For him, for me Let me tell you about my mother* For one more... Your eyes resemble mine... How can I be sure In a world that's constantly changing How can I be sure Just when I thought I was winning Just when I thought I could not be stopped Just when I thought I was winning Just when I thought I could not be stopped how can I be sure -- Posted by ALostHope at 10:52 am on Feb. 25, 2007 I've felt that way..hell I still do sometimes, you need time to clear your head of girls then try to start over, and make sure, before you throw your heart, you know that the one you love wil catch it. ... i just thought of that, its going in my sig. -- Posted by OhSoDisastrous at 10:53 am on Feb. 25, 2007 Well I can relate to you about the whole putting everyone before you thing. I ALWAYS do that. & yeah, i might not get treated back with the same respect. And, sure, it hurts. But you just need to learn to dealll i gues.. & with the abusive relationship[s] I feel for you.  I was never in one or anything but I have a friend who was.  I personally think you shouldn't even let a relationship get to that point, and the first time they put hands on you you should end it.  But I know it's alot easier said than done.  And I'm pretty sure that if I was in an abusive relationshiip it'd be really hard for me to trust people too.  And I'm pretty sure I'd end up putting myself before everybody like you are just to make sure that myself would be okay. What I would do if I were you is to talk to one of your friends about it or even a councelor. If that's possible. Because then you could get all these feeling out and believe me, you'll feel wayy better about yourself. And maybe you'll start trusting people again. My advice, try not to let one or two people fuck up the rest of your life.  There's so much out there to live for. & you know ittt. [: -- Posted by TheFallenAngel at 10:53 am on Feb. 25, 2007 I am totally the same as you, except I never had relationships. I have only had friends and they all seem to backstab me after I do a bunch of stuff for them -- Posted by Bre LiveWire at 11:00 am on Feb. 25, 2007 I know exactly what you are talking about. I have been through all forms of abuse growing up, and now that I am out of the situation I do tend to think what would be best for me. This is something I've never seemed to do well in. To be honest, I'm still not. Yes, I think about what would be best for me but I never go through with it. Especially if it comes down to leaving the one I am in a relationship with. However, if it comes down to the general public, I will stick up for myself more than I used to.. I don't know if the reason on why I cannot do the same to the person I am in a relationship with is because I have been through so much that I am not strong enough to do what you are doing or not. I mean, I think what you are doing is more than fine. You need to put yourself before others. Though, it also depends on the situation.. You're doing better for yourself. I hope I can eventually do the same.   -- Posted by crfdude86 at 3:09 pm on Feb. 28, 2007 i can understand too -- Posted by BodomKills at 3:28 pm on Mar. 8, 2007 aftermath is the name of my band!