-- Posted by Anonymous at 4:40 pm on Mar. 30, 2007 i caught my b/f of like 3 years hitting on my friend the other day and then he tells me that he was just playing around with her. Now im no idiot and it seems ever since we hit our 3 year anniversary (we're both freshman in college now) he's been doing stupider things like he wants me to dump him or something. like   1. flirting with my friend   2. smoking weed, and cigs (and I HATE that)   3. not goin out anymore   4. starting fights over dumb shit the list goes on. and then he has the nerve to call me every 3 days!! I should honestly leave him. What do you think!! -- Posted by Briley 07 at 4:42 pm on Mar. 30, 2007 Warn him -- Posted by Rastafarian at 4:48 pm on Mar. 30, 2007 I... don't think anything about it, as my opinion based on the scant  information you've given me is probably biased due to your frustration of being in this relationship. Do you want to break up with him? That is the key question. Are these things you've listed out-weighing the good of this relationship? Think hard on that question, because it is very important when considering a break-up. Is there hope this could get better? Perhaps if you talked about it to him, these things that bug you, he'll be understanding, obviously he finds that hitting on your friend is "just playing around" and it could very well be that. The point is, it still makes you uncomfortable, and you should talk to him about that, also if you've got a problem with his habits, talk to him about that as well. Find out why he is doing it (again?), problem solve, maybe suggest other potentially healthier ways of finding an out, something that would make you and him happier. If he's not calling you, you can call him, and you're not going out anymore, once again it is a matter of communication, ask him where his priorities lie, what he wants to do with you, where the he sees the future to be going and whatnot. Try and express yourself to him about how you miss the times you two would spent time together, and be out and about having fun, just the two of you. Really there are all sorts of other things you can try to do to preserve the relationship and hopefully bring it out of this drop you've recently experienced. Best of luck. :) -- Posted by cryinginside at 4:52 pm on Mar. 30, 2007 OH SHIT!!!! -- Posted by Anonymous at 4:55 pm on Mar. 30, 2007 Quote: from Rastafarian at 4:48 pm on Mar. 30, 2007 I... don't think anything about it, as my opinion based on the scant  information you've given me is probably biased due to your frustration of being in this relationship. Do you want to break up with him? That is the key question. Are these things you've listed out-weighing the good of this relationship? Think hard on that question, because it is very important when considering a break-up. Is there hope this could get better? Perhaps if you talked about it to him, these things that bug you, he'll be understanding, obviously he finds that hitting on your friend is "just playing around" and it could very well be that. The point is, it still makes you uncomfortable, and you should talk to him about that, also if you've got a problem with his habits, talk to him about that as well. Find out why he is doing it (again?), problem solve, maybe suggest other potentially healthier ways of finding an out, something that would make you and him happier. If he's not calling you, you can call him, and you're not going out anymore, once again it is a matter of communication, ask him where his priorities lie, what he wants to do with you, where the he sees the future to be going and whatnot. Try and express yourself to him about how you miss the times you two would spent time together, and be out and about having fun, just the two of you. Really there are all sorts of other things you can try to do to preserve the relationship and hopefully bring it out of this drop you've recently experienced. Best of luck. :) i dont want to break up, but he is acting completely diffrent than what he did 6-8 months ago. I try to talk to him, but he always changes the subject, or even hangs up on me when I bring it up