-- Posted by Anonymous at 4:19 pm on Sep. 30, 2007 There's this RA in one of the guys dorms who's been pretty wild so far this year.  He constantly holds parties in his room and people from his hall and girls(like me) will come and drink with him.  I've actually hooked up with him 3 times, the last being last night and when I say hooking up I don't mean sex.  Generally we're both drunk when we hook up and he's  just been a total ass to me lately....I  feel like he respects me less and less.                         like last night we were making out and fooling around a bit and I started questioning him, I wanted to talk a little you know?  But he'd been kinda irritating me and even though I was mod. drunk I still questioned him asking him why he doesn't call me when he's sober really and is it because he just doesn' like me?  he basically didn't respond at all so i said i was leaving and he didn't really try to stop me and so i stormed out.                                I was upset about it but I kinda knew it was coming but at the same time I didn't know what to expect.  anyways, today I dedicated a song, " you only  dial me when your drunk" by white t's and his immediately messaged me saying, "ok no more drunk dial...sorry i'm a sketchball" that was it.   Anyways, so on some reflection I realized I was pretty upset about it and i was talking to one of my guy friends who's a senior here and he realized i was upset and got it out of me what was wrong and now he's reporting him to student affairs.  I really don't want him to, but he claims that he's overstepped his boundries with the partying and he's prolly done this other girls as well....i tried to talk him out of it but he won't listen.  I'm mad at this RA, I mean he's an ass and I dont' want to talk to him again but I don't feel like I need or my friends need to deliberately get him in trouble.  It's not like he raped me or anything close to it. -- Posted by The Dalai Lama at 4:20 pm on Sep. 30, 2007 Your friend's a punk. -- Posted by dreamweaver at 4:40 pm on Sep. 30, 2007 Sounds like your friend has a point though. RAs are supposed to encourage a healthy environment for everyone to be able to socialize. He has gone over the line with the partying and even further by hooking up with his residents. There's a reason why it's against the rules at most colleges for RAs not to party and date residents or even other RAs in which they will have to be in contact day in and day out. -- Posted by Anonymous at 7:07 pm on Sep. 30, 2007 well he's not MY RA, we don't have coed dorms....but yeah my friend told me that one of his friends on the 'inside' said they're already investigating RA's so i dont' think he will report him -- Posted by dreamweaver at 10:37 pm on Sep. 30, 2007 I see... Well, I know here at my school, they do check facebook and they don't do so kindly to those who have pics of them partying it up with their residents (I know one person personally who's been fired for that reason). My own boss told me he does facebook checks occasionally, but he wouldn't fire on that alone; he usually just tells ya straight up and if it doesn't get taken care of soon, somethings going to get done about it. But anyway, as an RA, he shouldn't be treating anyone like that and just randomly hooking up with girls. To me, it sounds like he's rather known to do that. Not a good rep for an RA and I'm sure if ResLife found out about it they would do something about it ASAP. -- Posted by adamfrances21 at 5:16 am on Dec. 25, 2007 In his defence, partying and alcohol were the only times we could have a break! Seriosuly! We promote a healthy and safe environment 24x7 and sometimes we need to have a break. I was investigated a couple of times this year by my bosses (including my myspace and facebook account where all the photos are held) and if we're off duty and not breaking any of the rules its OK. I avoid drinking on campus (For this reason, people have to see us as role models), but I have no hesisitation in taking my residents to the clubs for drinks etc. AS far as the hooking up thing..... Is this a personal problem or a problem with him as an RA? If it has nothing to do with his role as RA then leave it (We're not allowed to hook up with anyone in the same building, not sure if that applies for you). Remember guys, RAs are people too. And its uber hard to always be the one enforcing the rules when you really want to get out there, chill out and have some fun too. -- Posted by dreamweaver at 2:59 am on Dec. 29, 2007 Quote: from adamfrances21 at 8:16 am on Dec. 25, 2007 In his defence, partying and alcohol were the only times we could have a break! Seriosuly! We promote a healthy and safe environment 24x7 and sometimes we need to have a break. I was investigated a couple of times this year by my bosses (including my myspace and facebook account where all the photos are held) and if we're off duty and not breaking any of the rules its OK. I avoid drinking on campus (For this reason, people have to see us as role models), but I have no hesisitation in taking my residents to the clubs for drinks etc. AS far as the hooking up thing..... Is this a personal problem or a problem with him as an RA? If it has nothing to do with his role as RA then leave it (We're not allowed to hook up with anyone in the same building, not sure if that applies for you). Remember guys, RAs are people too. And its uber hard to always be the one enforcing the rules when you really want to get out there, chill out and have some fun too. There's a difference between partying it up in your dorm room and going off campus to do it. A HUGE difference. My cousin was an RA back in his school and I hung out with a lot of RAs back at my school. Both schools have rules that you should never date another RA in your complex or date your residents because it could cause some major drama that no one wants to get involved with. It's pretty dumb to party in your room, and even dumber to do so if you're an RA- you're going to get caught. Pretty plain and simple. Either it's by a co-worker or a resident that doesn't like you... you're bound to get caught for it in the dorms. -- Posted by AthenaRuth at 10:20 am on Dec. 31, 2007 You should report yourself. -- Posted by TheOtherHorseman at 8:48 am on Jan. 10, 2008 Quote: from dreamweaver at 5:59 am on Dec. 29, 2007 Quote: from adamfrances21 at 8:16 am on Dec. 25, 2007 In his defence, partying and alcohol were the only times we could have a break! Seriosuly! We promote a healthy and safe environment 24x7 and sometimes we need to have a break. I was investigated a couple of times this year by my bosses (including my myspace and facebook account where all the photos are held) and if we're off duty and not breaking any of the rules its OK. I avoid drinking on campus (For this reason, people have to see us as role models), but I have no hesisitation in taking my residents to the clubs for drinks etc. AS far as the hooking up thing..... Is this a personal problem or a problem with him as an RA? If it has nothing to do with his role as RA then leave it (We're not allowed to hook up with anyone in the same building, not sure if that applies for you). Remember guys, RAs are people too. And its uber hard to always be the one enforcing the rules when you really want to get out there, chill out and have some fun too. There's a difference between partying it up in your dorm room and going off campus to do it. A HUGE difference.   My cousin was an RA back in his school and I hung out with a lot of RAs back at my school. Both schools have rules that you should never date another RA in your complex or date your residents because it could cause some major drama that no one wants to get involved with. It's pretty dumb to party in your room, and even dumber to do so if you're an RA- you're going to get caught. Pretty plain and simple. Either it's by a co-worker or a resident that doesn't like you... you're bound to get caught for it in the dorms. I support reporting him for being such an idiot, actually.