-- Posted by raiderz7 at 5:10 pm on Feb. 11, 2008 This might be kind of long so I apologize ahead of time.. I have been best-friends with this girl for about 4 years now, and honestly I have liked her almost the whole time too.  I kept my feelings to myself because she had a boyfriend at the time. Well I was having a problem with a girl, and she was there to help me, and it ended up that we got closer and closer to the point where she ended up developing feelings for me. She told me she had feelings for me and I was happy and worried at the same time, because she had been with her boyfriend for about 5 years. She told me that they weren't getting along and that she needed time apart from him. She tried to break it off numerous times, but he did things to scare her, called her nasty names, threatened suicide and so much more. He even called her 21 times in a matter of 20 minutes, when we were at the mall together, and when she didn't answer, he showed up and wanted to talk to her. Needless to say, she did end up breaking things off with him, and we got closer, while they grew apart. She has a lot of issues that I was trying to work through with her, self-harm, weight issues, etc. While her ex said "pick yourself, I don't care" I was online researching and helping her find ways to deal with the problems that she wanted to get rid of. She said "We are perfect for eactother"  "I will be devastated if I don't end up with you" "I can't wait to spend my life with you" so much more, my intuition said, I was the rebound guy, but my heart said, we were bestfriends before, maybe this was supposed to happen. She wanted to leave the relationship with him for the past 3 years, but she never could until now. Well the past two weeks, she has been telling me, that he is getting help, and he wants him to get better, because she wants a life with him again.  I was hurt because she told me all these nice things, and I spend a lot of time trying to help her out so she could get better. Just Saturday she sat down and talked with him, and she ended up texting me saying stuff like "I know you really feel about everything, and you think I am the one for you, but I honestly don't see it" I asked her why she said all the things to me in the first place, and she said she meant it at first, but as she hung out with me more her opinions changed. She said. she just wants to have fun with me, as a bestfriend, and that's it. I ended up telling her I needed to walk away from her, because the reason why her relationship ended with her ex in the first place was because of me.. he was so bitter and treated her like shit when she was with me, and I felt that if she wanted the relationship with him to work out, then I needed to stay away from her, so that he wouldn't treat her like shit, and be jealous when she was with me. Saturday she said "You know, he was ok with me having you in my life as a friend" but he said that plenty of times, and when she ended up hanging out with me and he found out, he took it out on her. It's hard letting go of a bestfriend, and more, because I honestly did care about her, and I feel that I will be in the way. She doesn't understand the real truth because she said "Your acting just like him, you just wanted me for yourself" I am doing this because I feel like I would be a problem in the future for them, and it would be best for me to stay away. It's been really hard lately. Any advice, help? -- Posted by snoopyloopy at 7:55 pm on Feb. 11, 2008 i think you're doing the right thing. -- Posted by raiderz7 at 7:09 am on Feb. 12, 2008 Quote: from snoopyloopy at 10:55 pm on Feb. 11, 2008 i think you're doing the right thing. Yeah.. the right thing is usually the hardest to do. -- Posted by LaPetite at 3:13 am on Feb. 20, 2008 This has to be really hard for you and I think you have to do what is best for yourself at the moment. Take a long break from her. Stay away and heal yourself. And DON'T help her again when she ends up treated badly again. -- Posted by lastfarewell at 11:43 am on Feb. 20, 2008 I agree with everyone saying that you should walk away