-- Posted by osmoticdespair at 9:36 pm on April 6, 2008 How do you guys cope with excessive shame/embarrassment  for things that are in the past, cannot be undone - and most of the time are not as crushingly bad as you feel every time they flash into your memory? -- Posted by jamescoleman at 9:40 pm on April 6, 2008 try not to think about them. everyone has shame and embarrassment. embarrassment can be a weakness because it can hold you back -- Posted by Soren Kierkegaard at 9:00 am on April 7, 2008 I simply immerse myself is other things around me rather than becoming too emotionally invested in what I know wouldn't be a deciding factor once it has already passed. -- Posted by Simple2005 at 9:18 pm on April 10, 2008 What doesn't kill me makes me stronger. What made me embarassed in the bast doesn't even phase me now. You face your fears and move on. -- Posted by Prince o palities at 7:47 am on April 14, 2008 Honestly? I spasm and try to ignore them, but kudos on your phrasing of that. This happens to me all the time and you have worded it so vividly, expressing it like I've never been able to. If you figure out what to do, please tell me. -- Posted by Majo at 1:07 pm on April 16, 2008 I try my best not to think about them and/or tell myself that I'm probably the only one who remembers anyways.