-- Posted by Ad libitum at 12:47 am on May 9, 2008 I'm shy, to the point where I sometimes find it difficult to look people in the eye, but my self-esteem isn't that bad. I wouldn't say that I completely adored myself, but then again, I don't hate myself like I once did. I'm kind of in the middle. Therefore, how can it be possible for me to be shy? I thought you were shy if you felt really, really, insecure or something.   -- Posted by HowAboutsNo at 12:50 am on May 9, 2008 uhm well if u were once very insecure or unhappy with the way you look then i think it is still possible to be shy because of that. I would like to think ofmyself as an outgoing person, but i still have this kind of paranoia that people don't like me and that i annoy them, so i kind of unintentionally distance myself from people. -- Posted by Virgo at 12:53 am on May 9, 2008 some ppl r just shy its not about low self-esteem -- Posted by labayk at 12:57 am on May 9, 2008 its a fear and inferiority complex... -- Posted by Ad libitum at 12:59 am on May 9, 2008 Quote: from labayk at 8:57 am on May 9, 2008 its a fear and inferiority complex... Yeah,that would make sense actually. -- Posted by labayk at 1:21 am on May 9, 2008 its good to see common sense in a lesbian female -- Posted by Ad libitum at 1:28 am on May 9, 2008 Quote: from labayk at 9:21 am on May 9, 2008 its good to see common sense in a lesbian female What's that supposed to mean?   -- Posted by labayk at 1:30 am on May 9, 2008 Quote: from Ad libitum at 1:28 am on May 9, 2008 Quote: from labayk at 9:21 am on May 9, 2008 its good to see common sense in a lesbian female What's that supposed to mean?   ha ha. just complemented your appreciation. i quite surprise to see common sense in a lesbian. i have met many. but girl i tell you. they are so different its kind of like they were lost -- Posted by Ad libitum at 6:09 am on May 9, 2008 Quote: from labayk at 9:30 am on May 9, 2008 Quote: from Ad libitum at 1:28 am on May 9, 2008 Quote: from labayk at 9:21 am on May 9, 2008 its good to see common sense in a lesbian female    What's that supposed to mean?   ha ha. just complemented your appreciation. i quite surprise to see common sense in a lesbian. i have met many. but girl i tell you. they are so different its kind of like they were lost Lol,yeah. My ex was pretty lost   -- Posted by The Nowhere Man at 3:04 am on May 16, 2008 I'm shy but I have plenty self-esteem. Not to the point where I have trouble looking people in the eye (although I don't see how it's a necessity for conversation), but self-confidence =/= extroversion. -- Posted by battleroyale at 3:51 am on May 17, 2008 Someone who is loud and outspoken could be just as insecure as someone who is shy. The two words don't mean the same thing. As for why people are shy is like asking why we laugh, it's just natural. -- Posted by Krissy2010 at 6:08 am on May 17, 2008 your not really that shy...i've never considered myself to be insecure when i was shy...that's almost depression...just smile when around people.. ::D -- Posted by BlueEyedBrielle at 6:42 am on May 17, 2008 that sounds like me. I'm a little shy (especially over the phone) and I have very low self-esteem. I suffer from Asperger's Disease and my brother has severe Social Anxiety Disorder...pm me if you like :) and be happy -- Posted by weelauren at 12:50 pm on June 16, 2008 Most of the time i'm shy, But it's strange. If i meet new people, some of them i can talk to straight away but others it takes me months to start a conversation. Over the phone i'm awfully shy though, I just laugh. I don't really say anything. I don't think it's anything to do with low self esteem, i think some people are just less comfortable around people than others. -- Posted by Pantzer Sucks at 5:09 pm on June 24, 2008 Outgoing people can be even more insecure than shy ones. We just hide it better. When I'm insecure, I tend to just be more annoying and talkative than usual. Lol. -- Posted by Ad libitum at 10:14 am on June 27, 2008 Quote: from Pantzer Sucks at 1:09 am on June 25, 2008 Outgoing people can be even more insecure than shy ones. We just hide it better. When I'm insecure, I tend to just be more annoying and talkative than usual. Lol. Yeah, I'm beginning to notice that actually. -- Posted by somelikeitred at 3:58 am on July 1, 2008 That is normal! You are just working your way up to that level where it is easy to look people in the eye. Some people might appear to be "shy" when they are far from it. It is just in their character to be more quiet and reserved. Either way, there is nothing wrong with you. Maybe if you really want to be able to go up to someone and strike up a conversation or be able to look people in the eye....just push yourself to that level...even if you can only do it for a few seconds. It's a start!