-- Posted by britishguy at 5:08 am on May 13, 2008 Fuck you Louise.   You know how hard it is to get a job locally. It took you two months and you were fresh out of University with three years work experience and no history of depression. I'm not fresh out of Uni. I have a history of depression and NO work experience. You're a smart woman. You were planning on leaving me for a month. And it never occurred to you how difficult it would be for me to get a job? You really thought I could just wake up the morning after my fucking wife leaves me and just go out and get a job and pay the bills? How fucking naive are you? HOW FUCKING SELFISH ARE YOU? You've left me with no money, no means to buy food and pay the bills and all you can say is get benefits, get a job. You know how long that takes You applied for housing benefit yourself and it took you THREE MONTHS to get it through - remember? You applied in NOVEMBER and it didn't come through until the end of JANUARY. How the fuck do you expect me to pay the rent and the bills. I am trying to get work., I am applying for benefits, BUT THEY DON'T APPEAR OVERNIGHT. After all the years we've been together I DESERVE MORE THAN THIS. I made have been a shit lately, but I also gave you a lot of happiness and a lot of dedication. I cooked for you, I cleaned for you, I tried to show you I loved you even when I was depressed and miserable. I tired my hardest in the situation in which I found myself to take care of you. I may have ended up being crap BUT I TRIED.   AND THIS IS HOW YOU REPAY ME FOR MY EFFORTS?? BY LEAVING ME HIGH AND DRY? All those years I dedicated myself to you and tried. I know I fucked up but I tried. And now you leave me fucking stranded and just tell me "IT'S NOTHING TO DO WITH ME ANY MORE, I DON'T LIVE THERE." All those years complaining how your father walked out on HIS responsibilities.   AND YOU JUST FUCKING LEAVE ME LIKE I CAN JUST PICK UP A JOB AND PAY THE BILLS. And you know I've been Ill, which make sit harder. YOU HAVE BEEN MY FUCKING CARER AND YOU JUST DESERT ME AND THEN COMPLAIN ABOUT MY WHINING. FUCK YOU. Of course I'm lost. I've been being fucking cared for and now I'm fucking stranded and you've hobbled me before I've even begun. You tell me I don't give myself enough credit - I DON'T SEE YOU GIVING ME ANY FUCKING CREDIT OR RESPECT EITHER. -- Posted by kendall716 at 5:16 am on May 13, 2008 Mark, I'll edit this later; but why don't you move this to TSF before too many noobs post stupid things. -- Posted by PlayBoyBunnie69 at 5:16 am on May 13, 2008 forget her -- Posted by Duke at 5:20 am on May 13, 2008 I'm a little lost here. You wanted to show your wife that you had your shit together and you were ready to face up to your mature obligations, right? So then you post topic after topic, bitching her out, on a teen forum! Man, you really need to get off LW and go handle your business like an adult, instead of a petulant 15 year old! -- Posted by ImSoHappy at 5:22 am on May 13, 2008 Why do people feel the need to put things on a forum rather than talking to the person/people they're concerned about? -- Posted by soldier side at 5:25 am on May 13, 2008 Quote: from ImSoHappy at 8:22 am on May 13, 2008 Why do people feel the need to put things on a forum rather than talking to the person/people they're concerned about? its nice to post something angry once in awile... -- Posted by kendall716 at 5:26 am on May 13, 2008 Quote: from ImSoHappy at 5:22 am on May 13, 2008 Why do people feel the need to put things on a forum rather than talking to the person/people they're concerned about? It's something hard that he's dealing with. -- Posted by ImSoHappy at 5:29 am on May 13, 2008 Quote: from soldier side at 1:25 pm on May 13, 2008 Quote: from ImSoHappy at 8:22 am on May 13, 2008 Why do people feel the need to put things on a forum rather than talking to the person/people they're concerned about? its nice to post something angry once in awile... I know, lol. -- Posted by WigAOK9 at 6:01 am on May 13, 2008 Is this not the rant forum people? What's wrong with posting a rant, letting out your feelings??? Gee you're all so understanding... Quote: from ImSoHappy at 5:22 am on May 13, 2008 Why do people feel the need to put things on a forum rather than talking to the person/people they're concerned about? It makes it kind of hard when you can't get in contact with the person... -- Posted by Duke at 6:09 am on May 13, 2008 He's obviously in communication with her. He was sending her the letter that I referred to, and he knows all about her job and housing arrangements, and he's talking to her about supporting him. There's nothing wrong with a rant, but trying to save your marriage by bitching at your wife through a teen internet forum is more than ranting! -- Posted by britishguy at 3:12 pm on May 13, 2008 Quote: from Duke at 2:09 pm on May 13, 2008 He's obviously in communication with her. He was sending her the letter that I referred to, and he knows all about her job and housing arrangements, and he's talking to her about supporting him. There's nothing wrong with a rant, but trying to save your marriage by bitching at your wife through a teen internet forum is more than ranting! Actually the time  I got to speak about the housing and stuff was a fluke - usually she doesn't answer the phone. As for the letter - if you see the thread I decided not to send it in the end but sit on it for a while instead. And as for the bitching at her through a teen forum: 1) She doesn't read the forum so it's not at her at all. 2) LW is for College students as well, and a lot of us Yores go back quite a ways so you'll just have to lump it that we use the place too. 3) This is hardly my attempt to save my marriage now is it? This is my attempt to vent and get things out my system. Danke. -- Posted by Bud2400 at 7:47 pm on May 13, 2008 Honestly, after reading this and your other topic, what this Louise girl did was absolutely inexcusable.  When you two married, you vowed to remain side-by-side until the very end and always support each other, and then she suddenly turned around without warning and spitted in your face!  She never mentioned how she was feeling about your marriage nor did she make any kind of effort to save it.  She just selfishly said fuck it, and I'm glad you see this. But do realize that if she ever comes back (which sounds very doubtful), you cannot forgive her for this.  In fact, next time you do talk to her, you really need to give her a big yelling for all this bullshit she's put you through.  Not that it would do anything, but it's just horrible what she's done, and when I read about it, it leaves a sick feeling in my stomach.  The least she could have done was give you some heads up about the way the marriage was going, or at the very least, at least agree to pay the rent, etc. for a month longer until you find a job. But you know, you don't seem to respect yourself at all.  If you want others like Louise to respect you, you need to treat yourself with the care and respect you deserve.  You need to get up, face the situation, and overcome it.  You need to become self-sufficient and be able to support yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially.  Otherwise things like what Louise did will occur.  It's impossible to maintain a relationship of any kind if you do not respect the other, and it's tough to respect somebody if they do not respect themself. You need to force yourself to eat, wake up, and do the things you always did before.  You need to make it a point to move on with your life and tell Louise she can go fuck herself like the silly bitch she is.  You just need to get back in control of your situation and life so you can feel good about it. Best of luck.