-- Posted by jamescoleman at 8:14 pm on June 1, 2008 soo do alot of the guys feel that they do alot during the relationship like pick up the girl and doing what the girl wants? or is it 50/50 where if going on a date the girl picks up the guy and does what the guy wants one day then trade off on the next day? -- Posted by UltimaTaz at 8:15 pm on June 1, 2008 Well...we get more in return. -- Posted by sugar booger at 8:16 pm on June 1, 2008 I like my guy to make a lot of decisions. I'm indecisive... -- Posted by smmitch at 8:17 pm on June 1, 2008 My bf and I always agree on an activity. Maybe there's something you both like? -- Posted by 25924225 at 8:18 pm on June 1, 2008 Quote: from UltimaTaz at 8:15 pm on June 1, 2008 Well...we get more in return. lol tru -- Posted by jamescoleman at 8:19 pm on June 1, 2008 i'm just asking before i get into a relationship -- Posted by hellolovey17 at 8:27 pm on June 1, 2008 i never make decisions cuz i can never decide so he decides and ya i drive sometimes. it doesnt matter. its whoever feels like it or doesnt feel like it lol -- Posted by tearsinheaven at 8:31 pm on June 1, 2008 i would say me & my boyfriend are almost equal. he's a gentleman though, so he usually pays, and he drives more often merely because it makes more sense for him to (although i'll drive too). but we make mutual decisions. -- Posted by jamescoleman at 9:11 pm on June 1, 2008 so if i was in a relationship *with a girl* then how would you suggest i go about making it a 50/50 relationship? -- Posted by Chino at 10:40 am on June 2, 2008 Quote: from tearsinheaven at 8:31 pm on June 1, 2008 i would say me & my boyfriend are almost equal. he's a gentleman though, so he usually pays, and he drives more often merely because it makes more sense for him to (although i'll drive too). but we make mutual decisions. That is something I don't understand about relationships.  It seems to have everything revolving around women: guys being a girl's walking ATM, her personal taxi, her free meals, her free movies, etc.  I mean, it's a tradition that is hard to change and couples seem to be fine about it.  So yeah, whatever rocks your boat.  But for me, it just doesn't make sense to be paying for companionship pretty much. James, It is a bit difficult to have a girl offer as much as what the guy contributes to a relationship not only when it comes to money but when it comes to other areas of the relationship.  But if you are fine with the traditions then go for it and enjoy, whatever rocks your boat.  Guys seem to enjoy doing it all, cool, but for me, personally, it doesn't make sense.   -- Posted by jamescoleman at 5:27 pm on June 2, 2008 yea chino i don't understand the guy have everything for the girl part it would just be nice to have it 50/50 though. it doesn't have to be all the time. i don't mind paying for the both of us but every time is a bank breaker. i should just withdraw all the money out of my account and give it to her or something. -- Posted by Chino at 9:27 am on June 3, 2008 James, Exactly but I guess that is how the tradition is in this part of the world.  Guys giving it all, girls receiving it all.  To each, their own. -- Posted by jamescoleman at 6:45 pm on June 3, 2008 yea the 'tradition' sucks maybe i need to goto another part of the world lol