-- Posted by d bomber at 6:00 am on June 2, 2008 I am scared right now.the reason I ma scared is because I am graduating high school and I am losing my friends.They Are going to different colleges.Some are going to the same college.I am being left alone with no one to talk to to.I dont how to make new friends.? As well if I dont get a full time job ,my last option is the military.I dont know what to do,i am so scared of whats going to happen to me once i graduate and turn 18.what do i do? -- Posted by nikki at 6:57 am on June 2, 2008 Hey - it's totally natural that you're scared. I think everyone is scared when they leave high school - it's a big step. It's your first step into the real world and the first step towards independence. I think it's natural that you think you're drifting apart from your friends. At your age, people are growing up and become themselves, they're changing and adapting, which is often something other people can struggle to deal with. You really need to try and keep in touch with your friends if you want to keep these friendships alive. It can be difficult, but it's really worthwhile trying. I think you all need to put the effort in here - but moving apart and going to colleges away from eachother means this won't be easy. My advice would be that each holiday, you all need to set aside a few days where you can all go out and catch up. Go out to the movies, out to the park - anything. Go out and do something which means that you'll all be able to catch up with eachother. It is difficult, though. College will change people and it's not always for the good, but you'll make friends quickly too. From what you've said, I assume you're not going to college, at least not straight away, and it doesn't sound like you want to go to the military either. Try and go looking for jobs now. Get some CV's printed and sorted, and go around all day everyday and search for jobs. Fill out application forms whenever you can. Even if the work isn't good, and is part time, it will get you money, and get you started with a job. You can still search for a better job even whilst you're working somewhere else. You'll be okay. Getting a job will let you meet new people, and you can always join some voluntary programmes in your town. They're a great way of meeting new people, and they always look good on a job application, so they might put you ahead of the competition. Good luck - I know it's scary, but there are millions of people in the same position, and you'll get there :)