-- Posted by Anonymous at 6:21 am on June 8, 2008 My boyfriend and I've been dating for like 5 years. Well, the last 2-3 years I've put on a lot of weight. It has made me feel like shit. Well, I'm finally doing something about it. My boyfriend could tell I lost a couple pounds, and they way he went on about it made me feel so good. Well, then we go out and there he is checking out all these girls with the perfect body. It really hurt me. Really. I told him what he did upset me and not only is he denying it, but being more of an ass. Every time my self esteem finally goes up, he has to bring it back down. And last night when I confronted him, he just started bring up a whole bunch of other stuff, making everything look like my problem. Like for fucks sake, I'm trying to lose weight. I've lost 3 pounds in a week and half, and have no intension's of stopping. But what he continuously does really breaks me heart. -- Posted by bondage lover at 6:22 am on June 8, 2008 you dont need him then. you deserve better. -- Posted by Fouad at 6:25 am on June 8, 2008 WELL HUN its typical for males to look .. if u gave ur bf or any boy the hottest women alive he will still stare at otha girls.. u shouldnt care much.. keep up the good work! lose weight! -- Posted by its only me at 6:25 am on June 8, 2008 awwww. you are who you are. its good that you want to do something about your weight.. and its good tht you feel comfortable telling him straight up - but if he continuously does it then tell him its too much for you to hear and hes bringing you down in confidence - once that starts - you'll struggle to get it back - trust me -- Posted by dramachica44 at 6:26 am on June 8, 2008 if he's being that much of an idiot to deny it when you saw him do it... just dump him there are plenty of other fish in the sea -- Posted by Anonymous at 6:29 am on June 8, 2008 Quote: from bondage lover at 6:22 am on June 8, 2008 you dont need him then. you deserve better. Thats what I say to myself sometimes. The last 4 months he has changed drastically. He is definitely not the guy I feel in love with. He started a new job 4 months ago and I can see someone at his work has changed him. He has become very 'me, me, me'. Ex. i made this massive meal with stuff chicken and I told him the stuffing tasted like crap and he said "Well then you eat the stuffing and I'll have the chicken." (He wasn't joking.) Another one, it was 41 out so we decided to go home and have some ice cream and he took the lot of it. He was like, 'there isn't enough for 2'. Little things like that have been happening. -- Posted by Anonymous at 6:31 am on June 8, 2008 Quote: from fouad at 6:25 am on June 8, 2008 WELL HUN its typical for males to look .. if u gave ur bf or any boy the hottest women alive he will still stare at otha girls.. u shouldnt care much.. keep up the good work! lose weight! It's not typical. Society has made it seem okay, when it's not. He should respect that I hate it and if he truely loved me, he wouldn't care what they look like. -- Posted by Fouad at 6:31 am on June 8, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 4:29 pm on June 8, 2008 Quote: from bondage lover at 6:22 am on June 8, 2008 you dont need him then. you deserve better. Thats what I say to myself sometimes. The last 4 months he has changed drastically. He is definitely not the guy I feel in love with. He started a new job 4 months ago and I can see someone at his work has changed him. He has become very 'me, me, me'. Ex. i made this massive meal with stuff chicken and I told him the stuffing tasted like crap and he said "Well then you eat the stuffing and I'll have the chicken." (He wasn't joking.)   Another one, it was 41 out so we decided to go home and have some ice cream and he took the lot of it. He was like, 'there isn't enough for 2'. Little things like that have been happening. meh thats really childish of him! -- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 6:48 am on June 8, 2008 41 and out? so you 2 are seniors then i'm guessing (or just graduated seniors)? if so then that's why he's like that. over time people grow either apart or more together. you two have been together so long at such a young age, maybe it's time to go different ways and date new people. especially if he's started to be a jerk like that to you. but, if you still want to be with him then i guess just keep talking to him, maybe one day he'll listen (it's a guy, no offense to them, but a lot i've met are pretty thick-headed and think they're right all the time and that they don't have to watch what they say or do). -- Posted by Fouad at 6:57 am on June 8, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 4:31 pm on June 8, 2008 Quote: from fouad at 6:25 am on June 8, 2008 WELL HUN its typical for males to look .. if u gave ur bf or any boy the hottest women alive he will still stare at otha girls.. u shouldnt care much.. keep up the good work! lose weight! It's not typical. Society has made it seem okay, when it's not. He should respect that I hate it and if he truely loved me, he wouldn't care what they look like. im not defending it but its really normal thing guys do.. agree he should at least stop doing it when ure around ,, though u cant control him from staring at girls when ure not around -- Posted by nik1 at 1:40 pm on June 10, 2008 I would say that you have an insensitive, stupid jerk for a boyfriend.  If you allow him to get away with it, it will continue.