-- Posted by Anonymous at 8:34 am on June 11, 2008 My boyfriend and I've been dating for over 5 years. We live together. Well sense he started a new job I've noticed that he is changing. Everything is about him. It's like he forgets about me. He isn't as charming as he use to be. I know people change, but he is really becoming a selfish bastard. I don't work right now. It was agreed I finished school then went to work. Well, I'm done school now and it's time for me to work. I was going to start part time, but with him acting all strangely and different, I've decided to go full time and save money in case we end up breaking up. Does that make me a bad person? Wanting to save money in-case we end up breaking up? -- Posted by chicwithproblems at 8:35 am on June 11, 2008 no -- Posted by WhenILeave at 8:36 am on June 11, 2008 no not at all we all have to take precautions -- Posted by Isaias Arenas at 8:36 am on June 11, 2008 no its a good thing b/c ur thinking ahead of the situation and wha it could lead to....talk to him, hes probably stressed or somethin -- Posted by Aqua Lily at 8:36 am on June 11, 2008 no.. your just thinking ahead. but you really should talk to him -- Posted by sexybrown0304 at 8:37 am on June 11, 2008 No that's actually smart -- Posted by Bagheera at 8:37 am on June 11, 2008 It makes you a clever and well thought out person. -- Posted by Firefly00 at 8:40 am on June 11, 2008 No, you are just thinking about your future resources, that's smart. -- Posted by Skeleington Queen at 8:42 am on June 11, 2008 no man im coming to you for advice -- Posted by princesscrewe at 8:44 am on June 11, 2008 no. that's a very smart decision a girl can make!btw, i hate  that kinda attitude when a someone starts a new job, then all the sudden, everything turns upside down,  he/she forgets about anyone or anything except their "JOB"....BS -- Posted by ajakana at 8:45 am on June 11, 2008 You have to have money in case you break up that's only if you two are sharing a bank account that is but that's not a stupid idea its a smart one my mom always told me that and from what I'm seeing about your boyfriend I've had this type of guy before talk to him if he doesn't tell you nothing then he's stressed about something keep bothering him he'll thank you for that  some guys like you to chase them in that way, ask him if he needs some space but if he's being selfish he might go look for someone else I hope this is not what he does -- Posted by tearsinheaven at 8:48 am on June 11, 2008 no, it makes you a smart person. -- Posted by PreppyPeyton at 8:52 am on June 11, 2008 Nope makes ya a smart person. -- Posted by child of rock n roll at 8:53 am on June 11, 2008 It makes you smart. Its just upsetting to be in a relationship and planning for its break up. Maybe try talking to him? -- Posted by NikkiMikki at 9:02 am on June 11, 2008 No, you're being realistic. -- Posted by Anonymous at 12:02 pm on June 11, 2008 Quote: from child of rock n roll at 8:53 am on June 11, 2008 It makes you smart. Its just upsetting to be in a relationship and planning for its break up. Maybe try talking to him? I have, on many occasions. It goes through one ear and out the other. I love him so much, and i know he loves me too, but he is acting so differently. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 1:47 pm on June 11, 2008 I think you're being rather realistic, hunny. -- Posted by morrisonsMYmuse at 4:49 pm on June 11, 2008 that does not make you a bad person. that makes you a very smart person. good for you.