-- Posted by relentless26 at 10:58 pm on June 15, 2008 His name is Aaron, he lusted after me for 3 years and during those 3 years I dated him and would break up then go with other people, then go with him again. Finally he couldnt take it because he really loved me and I was just tossing him around. He tried to get over me and I wouldnt let him because we had another go at a us. It didnt work because is soccor schedual was so hectic. Him and I have had are ups and downs as friendship goes he has even changed into this guy that I really would never like but then every so often the old sweet, caring aaron comes out and its like no time left. He asked me to go to a soccer game with him and I instantly said sure. I dont know why I did, I guess a part of me misses the aaron whom I had my first kiss with and how it was in the stairway on hat day and our hats clinked...he he and how he use to hold me in his arms and tell me he didnt want to let go. I miss the aaron whom made me finally act like a good girlfriend and I wish he was the one to see that sometimes. I just dont know what to do because a big part of me says go away from him. What should I do? -- Posted by Porcelina at 11:07 pm on June 15, 2008 Well, sometimes it is really hard to let go of the idea of a person, especially when you don't spend a lot of time with him. I spent 2 years of my life with a boy who I was happy with, but we had a huge amount of problems. When I went away to college I took it as an excuse to break up with him. I dated other people, but I could never make it work with any of them because I wanted this idea of him back. This sweet, beautiful, caring boy that for some reason in my head I saw him as always being, and really he was not at all. Being away from him made me forget how harsh he was at times, his yelling, his addictive problems, and how terribly cold I was to him because of all of these problems he had that he dragged into my life. So, in the end I sabotaged several relationships for this little idea I had of him, that wasn't really him at all. Now that I'm home I spend a lot of time with him, and I see how foolish I was. The only advice I can offer you is to write down everything you remember him as. Once you do that, spend some time with him and see how he really acts. Make another list of how he is now, and compare what you have. Is he really worth the trouble? Is it worth rarely seeing him? How many other guys are you missing out on? If he's not worth it you just have to move on. It might be easier for you to break off all contact so you are not tempted, or maybe it is easier for you to do what I do and still see him just to remind yourself that this isn't what you want and there are better guys out there. I don't know how old you are, but I am just going to assume you are young, at least younger than I am. Now is the time to get out there and see what is around. Once you hit your twenties you are likely going to start thinking of marriage, and it is hard to consider somebody when you do not know what else is around. So look. If in the end you find you want Aaron then try to come back for him. If you can't get him back find someone else like him. There are tons of people out there, don't waste your time on something that isn't working.