-- Posted by cherrys77 at 11:13 am on June 23, 2008 I have major issues with my mom. We fight every  day. Like fights where i end up in tears everytime. And i'm not a sensative person. I refuse to cry in front of people but she makes me just burst out in tears. She thinks I'm a bitch and i know I'm not. I'm not a bitch because i speak my mind to her and tell her how i feel about things.. right? She flips out on me for no reason. Llike recently i tried out for my highschools dance team. We were getting ready to leave and she told me to eat something. I told her i wasn't really hungry no thanks. And she started slamming things and asking me if i was anerexic and needed to see a therapist. She's alway implying that i should see a therapist.. which i know is ridiculous because my only problem is her. I've asked her numerous times to not swear at me or call me names. But she just says well you are a brat. It really hurts. I have tears in my eyes just thinking about it. I've changed a lot in the last few years. But the side of my personality that she has an issue with has always been there. That's just me. I'm a umm classic Leo. She doesn't listen to me when i try to have casual conversation with her or tell her stories about my life. Then she complains I don't tell her anything. I don't get it. I feel so helpless and hurt. And i don't talk to anyone about this. Not even my best friend because she has her own problems so i'm not gonna complain about mine. So does anyone have any advice on how i should deal? -- Posted by M J at 2:38 pm on June 23, 2008 I don't know your mom, but from what you have stated it appears that she is acting a little bit immature.  Even though you are both to blame, because you both are fighting, a parent typically should be the bigger person.   Ever since we were kids we were taught that our parents know best and whatever they say is truth, that isn't always the case.  Sometimes parents mess up and say things that they don't mean, and many times they say things that are hurtful because they don't know how deep we take their comments.  My suggestion to you would be to lighten up a little bit.  Don't take everything your mom says to such a deep spot in your heart.  If you take what she says with a grain of salt, chances are your fights will not be as serious.   I know you have already tried talking to her, but did you go about it in a mature way?  Instead of accusing her of things, try to put the blame on you.  Instead of saying 'you say this and it makes me feel bad' say something along the lines of 'I get sad when people call me a brat/bitch' By stating it like that she is more likely to listen to you rather than act defensive. Just keep in mind that even though it may not seem like it, she has your best interest at heart and I'm sure she loves you.  Some people just have a harder time showing love than others.